Post # 1
I am getting married next July. I sent out save the dates in November right after the engagement. We live in the Midwest. The groom is from the south and we planned to get married on the west coast where my family lives. Due to some unforeseen issues in my family our planned wedding may no longer be possible (parents mental illness and possible divorce and death of a grandparent). I would really just like to elope to a local courthouse or possibly just have a few close friends and family attend a Vegas wedding. How do we explain to the people who received a save the date that we still plan to get married we just are not having a large wedding anymore? Should we send something out? Should he and his parents just contact the people they each put on the original invite list?
Post # 2
I would call each person individually, do you know if people have already made travel plans?
Post # 3
I think you need to call all of your guests ASAP unfortunately. Some of them might have already made non-refundable travel plans, ie. bought plane tickets.
Post # 4
I agree wtih pp’s Call and explain the situation most likely people have already booked tickets.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
I think it’s doubtful people have already booked tickets. I’d have waited until about March to buy tickets for a July wedding. Just get in touch with everyone ASAP.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2019 - City, State
These are just “save the dates?” Not formal invitations with RSVPs? If you don’t have RSVPs in hand, then I doubt anyone booked anything between November and now.
Post # 7
Send an email ASAP! Explain what you explained here and apologize.
Post # 8
They may not have booked, but they very well may have requested time off work that now has to be rescinded. And you don’t want to take the odds that they didn’t book (depending on the date and location, I would have potentially scoped out Hotels and made a reservation there already even if I hadn’t booked airline tickets).
I would either call, email, or send out a postcard with something to the effect of the destination wedding scheduled for July will not be taking place as planned and the couple will be making alternative wedding plans in the near future.
Post # 9
When are you planning on getting married in the courthouse? I’ve actually seen people send postcards like, “We got married! Can’t wait to celebrate with you soon!” I think a similiar postcard or support from family to call each of those people would suffice.
Post # 10
I would contact everyone I did here on here of someone sending in save the date cards and explaining what happened but why spend the extra money. I would just say you had some unforeseen circumstances and are canceling your wedding plans for now you may do something smaller or elope but are unsure at this time.