(Closed) unsolicited advice…

posted 8 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Worker bee

Oh yes. It’s everywhere! That’s one of reasons I was dreading telling my friend. I knew she would constantly be telling me what I should do and should not do and exactly how I should raise my child. It doesn’t help that our parenting styles are very different and I probably wouldn’t go to her for advice anyway.

Do you get pregnancy/birth horror stories too?? Those are always ridiculous. What makes people think I want to know about all their complications? I’m nervous enough not knowing exactly what to expect, they are just making it worse!

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

I see one person and they are like, “ooh you are too skinny.  You’ve got to feed that baby.”  In the very next encounter someone says, “Whoa, are you carrying twins?!”  Turns out the OB said today that I’m measuring perfectly and am right on target, so I’m just trying to blank out what people say.

I feel like the high school science lab!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Ah yes, such is life. You should turn around and point something out about those coworkers.

The woman’s wearing heels? Tell her those’ll make her knees bad.

Guy’s eating bacon? That’ll give you high cholesterol!

Or, just say, “thanks, ya know, i wasn’t raised in a barn…” =]

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

@Mrs. DG – I got the “Wow, it’s too early to be showing” comments when I was like 7 weeks. Bad enough at that point I was starting not to fit in my clothes and popping buttons left and right. that was exactly what I wanted to hear.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think the people who tell pregnancy/birth horror stories to mommies-to-be are probably the same jerks who spout divorce statistics at people when they get engaged.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Agreed, Kittyachi!  The same people who gave us daily “advice” on marriage last year are now the same ones commenting on pregnancy and parenting this year.  Most of the time I just let it roll of my back; I figure the majority of these people have completey different lifestyles and world views than me, so why take their opinions to heart?  🙂 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Exactly Kittyachi and Mrs. Spring!!

When my hubs told his brother that we were having a baby, his reaction to it was “Good Luck” in a sarcastic voice. He said this because when his wife was preggie, she was constantly on him for everything. Almost anything he said or did she had a problem with. The problem is, is that my hubs and I are NOTHING like them. Our relationship is so much different so his snarky remarks are unnecessary.

I definitely do not like being compared to their relationship…NO way!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

My biggest peeve is when my kids are acting out in a public place and a stranger gives me parenting advice. I actually got into it at a store with a woman who was unrelenting once and told her I would lock her in a room with my kids for 20 minutes and after my abnormally strong eight yr old kicks her ass, then maybe we could talk. This was after she saw my daughter hit me and felt she should step in.

 Or when someone knows that my daughter has a disabilty and they give me that look of pity and tell me how thier neighbors sisters cousins vets stepdad is a teacher, so they know how it is and ask have I tried such and such. Oooooh, okay, thanks, but I think I got this.

It’s really hard to be cordial and not roll my eyes, but I try, bc I know people are just trying to have a connection. But it really pisses me off, too.Yell

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

This is one of my pet peeves!  And people do it with weddings, pregnancy, parenting…all the most personal things we do in life.  I understand wanting to share stories and experiences.  They may see it as a way to bond, but I don’t understand why they feel they need to bond over the horror stories/bad stuff and not the glorious/good stuff. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

OK, so I thought about a topic that has been brought up to me by so many people which I really don’t care for and it has to do with finding out the gender. What works for you does not mean it will work for us. It is so frustrating because they want to know why we really want to know the gender instead of keeping it a “surprise”. We have so many reasons and quite frankly it isn’t any of their business…

Do anyone else get this question often as we do?

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

We get it from the opposite side, Roddybride.  We’re NOT finding out the baby’s sex, and we get questioned daily about it.  It’s super annoying, especially when people say things like, “How am I supposed to buy the baby presents if I don’t if it’s a boy or a girl?  What am I supposed to do, huh? I really want to know!”  I don’t care what they do!  If they want to buy our baby a present, they can buy it something in green!  I actually told my sister the other day that if she doesn’t end her fascination with my child’s genitals, I would call Child Protective Services.  Laughing  She hasn’t mentioned it since!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Nice comeback, Mrs. Spring!!

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m going to start a thread on kids acting out in public – feel free to weigh in!

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