(Closed) unsupportive family and friends

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4525 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@happyuphere:  I’m going to give you the advice to STOP trying to convince people. You do not owe them any explanation, as I assume you are an adult. I feel like opinions on people getting married are like opinions on age differences in a relationship: they need to be kept to yourself. I think your friends comment was kind of rude.


Post # 4
3072 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@happyuphere: Ugh. Been there. I wouldn’t worry about trying to convince other people of anything. If you both think it’s right, then it’s right. And your family and friends will have to fall in line. Alternatively, they could choose NOT to fall in line. In which, case it’ll be you and FH against the world. I don’t think you have to sacrifice the wedding you want (running to the courthouse if that’s not what you’d rather do), but you’re about to be someone’s wife. No time like the present to get accustomed to the fact that you will have to focus on each other regardless of anyone else’s opinion


Post # 5
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

You really can’t convince anyone of that, it’s just something they’ll grow used to and accept over time. Right now I’m sure they’re acting out of love and concern for yo, even when it doesn’t sound like it. THink about it, if one of your friends broke up with a guy after 7 years and then got engaged to the next guy she dated after 6 months, you’d probably be worried too. Your wedding is well over a year away, so right now I think you just need to give them some time – once time passes and they see you’re really getting married and are serious about this and happy with the guy, I expect they’ll start to get used to the idea.

Post # 6
4716 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I don’t obviously know you or your family.. but if my family were actually upset enough to say something to me about a relationship I was in, I would take some time to reflect on their advice.

If you feel like this is something that’s right, just ignore them.. the longevity of your marriage and your happiness will prove them wrong. It will just take time.


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