- West Coast Bride
- 8 years ago
- Wedding: May 2009
I wanted to get your opinions on unsupportive guests….as in guests who don’t suppor the marriage but go anyways? My sister in law is getting married today and I’ve felt a lot of mixed feelings about going to her wedding–her relationship is abusive and her husband to be makes his living on criminal activities. He also has a history of drug and alcohol problems. My in-laws live in complete denial that this is a problem in the long term because they are afraid she’ll push them away if they do anything less than fully support her choices, both financially and emotionally.
My cousin has said in the past that she’s not sure if she’s going to come because she doesn’t support the marriage and she’d feel like a phony sitting there silently when the pastor asks whether anyone has any objections. I see where she’s coming from, but I also know that in-law relationships are sometimes about keeping the peace and that “making a statement” through someone’s wedding often blows up in your face.
I’m basically looking for whether you think you that you shouldn’t attend a wedding if you don’t agree with the marriage? Can you offer me some advice for how to try and enjoy myself today?