- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
So I got engaged in August 2010 and am getting married in September 10, 2011, and my mother has shown no interest. I’ve tried everything I can think of to get her to care. I know she likes my fiance, actually she loves him! But when it comes to this wedding she doesn’t want to do anything. I’ve done everything I can do to please her.
I’m starting to feel more sad everyday over this. For my wedding I always thought I would get to go wedding dress shoping, but she didn’t want to because it would cost too much, and since I didn’t want to go without her I got a dress at goodwill.
I want a brunch wedding but she said no.
I wanted candles she said no.
The venue was more then 10 minutes from her house so she told me no.
Candy Buffet? No.
Everything I talk about she hates.
Around here the mother throws the bridal shower, and she threw a fit when I asked if I was going to get one, she even called me selfish for wanting one because I can’t expect anyone to want to get me something a month before the wedding.
I could understand these things if I had asked for people to give me gifts or for her to pay for anything but she hasn’t paid for anything nor have I asked her too.
The shower hurt the most. She wouldn’t of had to do anything it was going to be at my house, I would buy everything for it, all she had to do is say she was throwing it and she wouldn’t even do that for me.
My fiance is actually getting upset over the whole situation, everyday he tells me its my day do what will make me happy but its just hard because I want her to be happy.
I feel blessed for my future mother in law, she has helped me with almost everything. She’s making the centerpieces, helping me make the candle, fixing my dress, throwing me a bridal shower, and even put the deposit on the venue for us just to help us out.
Even though my future mother in law has been amazing, I can’t help but want to cry because my mother hasn’t even asked me once to go look at anything wedding. Has anyone else had this problem and how have you dealt with it. I’ve talked to her she just screams at me and thinks I’m horrible, I’m so hurt that I just don’t know how to deal with it anymore.