(Closed) Unsupportive/helpful bridesmaids

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh I feel your pain. I have 4 bm’s and I am sooo disappointed. You see all these other brides with amazing, helpful girls and we get stuck with the duds:p My maids have done almost nothing for me. A few times I almost cancelled the wedding party, but I really want/need the help. So, this Saturday I have scheduled them to come over so I can tell them all the details about where they need to be and what they need to be doing. I have had to pick the date for my bach party and so far, none of them have planned anything. So, if I want one, I am going to have to plan it. If I ask them to throw me one, I will feel like they are doing it because I asked them to. My Maid/Matron of Honor who is my best friend wont make time for either. Enough about me though.

The way that I handled my wishy-washy party was to tell me the dates they absolutely needed to show up for and I am doing everything else myself. Is it the best solution? we’ll see soon. Something that I realized was that they are not mind readers so as nice as it would be to have them take initiative they just may not know what you want. Hence, my upcoming meeting. I would suggest telling them what is expected of them(in a nice way) and going from there. Give them the dates that you need things done by and then hopefully they will come through.

I hope this helps a little and that things get better for you.

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