(Closed) Unsure about a bridesmaid…

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would work on the relationship with her and wait to pick your bridal party until about 6 months before the wedding.  I think it reduces the drama by waiting to pick your bridal party.

Post # 4
3314 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with EvaBoston Terrier.  I would also say when you DO pick your bridal party, choose people that you are very close to and WANT standing up next to you.  Do NOT choose them because you feel obligated.  

Post # 5
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would also agree with the others and wait to pick your bridal party. It’s amazing how things can change within a year, or even just a few months. I was in a similar situation as you, when my best friend from high school and I had a little rift in our friendship shortly after I got engaged, and I had already asked her to be a bridesmaid. Luckily, things have worked out, and our friendship has gotten back to where it was, but it would have been so much easier if I would have just waited because I had been having on and off doubts about this friend being a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 6
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree on waiting to ask anyone to be bridesmaids. I asked my girls right away because they have been my best friends since middle school so I know they’re not going anywhere but in your situation, I would wait until you know for a fact that these girls will still be in your life come time for your wedding. It adds so much unnecessary stress when you have to deal with MOH/bridesmaid drama.

Post # 7
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would also suggest waiting till 6 months prior to your wedding. one of my Bridesmaid or Best Man automatically assumed she was going to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man bc to her i’m one of her closest friends because she has few friends but to me i have many. so i just figured it’ll be fine having her as my Bridesmaid or Best Man. unfortunately, ever since I got engaged, she has been emailing me every other wk on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, demanded i change the color (although my fiance really loves the color we chose), and when we went shopping for wedding dresses, she couldnt even wait a couple minutes when i was changing between gowns and would run off and grab a pile of Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. now, i hafta deal with telling her that i do not want her to be a part of the wedding party anymore. soo…just wait a bit, especially with the high stress of weddings, people’s true colors come out and if something happend between the 2 of you before it may happen again

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