Post # 16
I suspect you are correct and he meant it was tarnished, meaning it’s probably sterling. Not great for wear every day for years, and this would be a good angle to take when you talk to him about it.
Is it a diamond or another type of stone?
I’m thinking that depending on your budget, you could either have it reset or just wear a wedding band and keep that as a token, worn on a chain, until you can afford to have it redone or get another ring.
Post # 17
If the ring is sterling it should have “925” stamped inside the ring. To be honest though I wouldn’t be comfortable with it either. How old is he? From your description, it sounds like it was a random ring he found in his mother’s drawer. It’s probably not worth resizing; you can find a nice cz band for ~10-20 dollars on Amazon in the interim. For the longer term, it might be worth looking at pawn shops or estate stores.
Post # 18
I’d be disappointed, it’s a sweet sentiment but weird all the same.
If I were you I’d say something about the metal not lasting very long etc and go from there.
keep the ring as a keepsake but not as an engagement ring
Post # 19
I don’t know…I got engaged at 17 and my boyfriend was broke, but he still bought an inexpensive but beautiful gold ring with tiny diamonds in it in the shape of a flower. Very small but what he could afford, and it was meaningful because he knew I would love it. I would worry about marrying someone who didn’t even go to the bother of picking out a ring for you. Not that I think everyone needs an expensive ring or even a ring, but I think going through the motions of planning it out and getting something specifically for proposing is more meaningful than going through old jewelry to save a buck.
Of course, that isn’t to be confused with heirloom jewelry, but I think that when you give heirloom jewelry it should come with the option to choose a different setting or stone if it doesn’t fit the wearer’s style.
Post # 20
Tell him you appreciate the sentiment but that you need something more durable in your taste. Then go ring shopping/research rings online and get what you want within a reasonable budget. He should be fine with it if it makes you happy