Unsure about taking fiance's last name

posted 5 months ago in 30 Something
Post # 16
Member
33 posts
Newbee

hockeybee0104 :  

 

Shere I live, the baby automatically gets the mothers last name. At his christening he got his fathers lastname hyphenated before mine. I will do the same as well when we get married. We have also talked about him adding my name hyphenated after his last name, so we would all have the same last name. I’d like that, but there is no pressure from my side, just like there was not pressure from his side for me to change my name. 

 

I say, do what feels right foe you. It’s your name. 

Post # 17
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60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I took my husbands last name, but then again we both have Scottish last names. 

My maiden name is actually my moms maiden name. My dad had a really hard to pronounce Italian surname and did not want my mom to take his name. The only reason my dad didn’t change his last name to my moms is because my grandmother would have lost it. Do what you both want, if that means keeping your name do it. If that means giving your name to your kids do it. But first have a conversation about it all with your fiancé. 

Post # 18
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

I am keeping my name socially and legally and plan to correct anyone who calls me Mrs His Name. I plan on correcting people to avoid confusion when we have kids, since our kids will have one of mine (I have my dads and my moms) and his sylvanas :  

Post # 19
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2020 - City, State

You could always hyphenate your last names if you really wanted to have both! I have an Aunt who did this and her husband loved the decision. In the end, though do whatever makes you happiest! It’s your name so do as you please with it. Any decision you make I’m sure you’ll walk away from it feeling satisfied. 🙂 

Post # 20
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8714 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Do whatever is best for you both. I didn’t want to ever give up my name so I gave now husband the option to keep his name and us just have different names, or for him to take my name, which he did. There were a couple of raised eyebrows but we were both happy and I am pleased I have kept my name and Darling Husband is pleased with his new name. Win win. 

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