(Closed) Unsure how to ask for a upgraded e-ring

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I could see him being upset because you wouldn’t have the family diamond in your ring anymore…

Post # 3
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Busy bee

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lizzysoontobemurphy:  I would ask for it as a gift. pick an upcoming milestone and sometime say “I was thinking….I’m ready for more bling! etc” if he’s not into it, the next time you bring it up like “I’ve decided…”

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

Since it is a family stone – why not just get a fabulous right hand ring (or two)?

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I don’t think you “ask” for an upgrade after you’re married. It’s both of your money now, so you jointly decide on it — you have as much say in how your money is spent as your DH does. You can float the idea and see what his thoughts are, just like you would with any other significant purchase.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

Idk I think that diamond is so beautiful. I wouldn’t want to change it, plus the family connection. 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

No advice really about the upgrade… but can I just say that I’m zooming in on that and it is such a pretty diamond. I’d be beyond proud to wear it. I do think the wrap really detracts from its beauty though, and I’d take off the wrap and just pair the solitaire with a thin, pave wedding band. 

Anyway, good luck with whatever you decide. Just know that I love that diamond of yours!

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

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TheGridMonster:  plus 1, a thin pave band would be so beautiful with her diamond! 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

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TheGridMonster:  +1. Now that I am on a larger screen, I can really zoom in and see how pretty that diamond is. I’d keep it and just change the setting so it has a little less going on to detract from it. I bet it would look bigger if you went with, as others suggest, a thin pave band instead of the wrap. If you want more coverage or sparkle though, you could consider a halo that is fitting your diamond’s vintage vibe.

And then you can still get those moissanites set into right hand rings 😉

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Agree with the pave band!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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lizzysoontobemurphy:  What would you do with the familly stone if you get an upgrade?

Post # 12
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Newbee

I agree with the other posters that have said a different band is a good idea! It’ll give you a whole new ring and you would get to keep the diamond as the focal point. This is just my opinion, but I recently bought my girlfriend an engagement ring (I haven’t proposed yet) and I would be bummed if she wanted an “upgrade”. I spent so much time and emotion trying to find the perfect ring, and I would be lying if I said I wouldn’t be crushed if she wanted to switch to moissanite. Maybe get a new ring for your right hand?

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

I don’t think you should have to ask. So here is the easy answer.  the new moissanite set in a completely different semi mount and leave the diamond as is.   Show us the new mossy by the way?  Your diamond is gorgeous but I also love the idea of you pairing it with a thin pave band. Keep your heirloom for diamond days and your mossy for every day wear and join the many rings club!! 🙂

Post # 15
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Worker bee

You don’t sound ungrateful at all. I agree with the suggestion to keep the original diamond in its setting and maybe wear it on your right hand? Set the moissanite in something new and wear it on your left, and maybe switch it up every now and then when you feel like it. Then, you can reset the original diamond into the necklace a little later so it isn’t a lot of change at once. 

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