Member@canadajane: it’s not a fancy wedding but not completely laid back either…I don’t think any immediate family or bridal party is serving…she told him she was going to try to get a couple of her moms friends. And me.
MemberIm glad you told her no. I don’t care how budget friendly your wedding is you dont solicit guest help. Wait form them to ask. I hope she doesn’t become bitter about this.
I threw a budget friendly bday party for my mom. I needed people to serve the buffet meal and bust the tables. I enlistened my brother’s friends and paid them.
MemberEw I would DEFINITELY say exactly what @julies1949: said. No way!
Member@AngE0522: I think it depends – if it is a potluck style reception where all the guests will be chipping in, that’s one thing. But it seems like she is trying to get free labor out of the people she doesn’t care about socializing with (ie she isn’t asking her closest friends or bridesmaids to serve). In that case, I’d say not cool, and ask to come as a guest.
MemberI just.. no. Just no. Who asks that! I’m sorry you have to deal with such a strange, uncomfortable question!
MemberThis is so strange! Like everyone else here, I’ve never heard of this. I could understand if perhaps it was a very small wedding at home and other family members were doing the same thing, then I’d be more than happy to help out. If it’s just a matter of them being cheap though, it’s a pretty tack y thing to ask someone who should be a guest.
I would leave my SO to deal with it. He’s very blunt and would have no problem saying no on my behalf.Not in a rude way, but if he knew how I felt, he would absolutely defend me.
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