(Closed) Unsure how to feel?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2385 posts
Buzzing bee

I mean, I think you are legitimate in being a bit hurt, but I don’t think it’s enough to make a big fuss about. Put on a happy face and try and make friends with whoever you end up sitting with. I think the fact that she brought it up with your Fiance is a good sign. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@lunamoth23:  ((HUGS)) FWIW I would be upset by this, too, because you’re his Fiance and soon to be a member of the family, too.  Also, you’ve been together for four years, you’re not a stranger.  I admire your sweet attitude to not say anything and make the best of it. 

But, yep, I’d be upset too!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would be dissapointed too.You will be fine though.At least she gave you a heads up,so it wasn’t a surprise.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I would probably be hurt at first and then shrug it off because I’m thinking, seating plans are a mess and seating a single in with family couples (dates, aunts and uncles, etc.) might be problematic.

Last wedding I went to where Fiance was a groomsmen I got sat at a table near the head table with miscellaneous people (one was the bride’s co-worker, one was a groom’s distant relative, people they clearly didn’t know where to put so they mashed them together at one table) instead of near FI’s friends that I knew!  It was terrible, but honestly as soon as dinner ends you and Fiance will be reunited and get to dance the evening away 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

Don’t be hurt!!  Seating charts can be a NIGHTMARE and your Future Sister-In-Law was thoughtful in texting her brother with your feelings in mind.  I’m sure if there was a way she could have done it, she would have sat you with the rest of the family.  Her seating you where she did was not because she doesn’t consider you to soon be part of the family.  Please don’t hold it against her … I can understand how ‘breaking into’ a new family is difficult.  Just be your wonderful self and all the pieces will fit together eventually!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I would be upset too. You are practically family. You should be placed at a family table. Go, have a good time and make some new friends. You can do it!

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