- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Hey All 🙂 This is my first time posting… so if it seems all over the place I apologize in advance, as well as thank you for taking time to help a fellow bride to be out.
I’ll give you a quick background. My Fiance(we’ll call him Mr.Fireman) and I have been having a terrible time planning our special day. 🙁 Which of course is disappointing because lets face it every girl wants nothing but sheer happiness and excitement in planning their wedding to the man of their dreams and love, right? Of course! But there are so many what if’s, I don’t want to regrets, and like Mr.Fireman says people wanting to turn it in to a production. Not to mention having a wedding costs a pretty much a years salary to some people. It almost makes planning it dishearting.
Anyway, we have had to change our date 5 times minimum to suit other needs, whether it be family members graduating, other peoples weddings, or work related dates interferring with time off. We’ve decided on venues, which our families offered to help with deposits, only for them to lose a job or have to pay a college tution. So of course Mr. Fireman and I are not going to ask for their help anymore, because neither of us feel that its right. We merely appreciate that they even offered. But because of that, we can’t afford it either. So then we decide to try and do a small thing in my parents back yard, they have a beautiful stone fireplace in the backyard that would look beautiful as a backdrop. But then I was told I had to invite my entire family, meaning aunts, uncles, and cousins and alone in my family there are a minimum of 60 guest(thats not small). Needless to say we couldn’t fit that plus some in my parents backyard.
I hit a point where I felt as though every option I came up with was met with resistance and like nothing would work or come to furition. So I gave up for a good month or two :)( it was a needed break, and we just enjoyed being engaged for a little bit). It was then we finally decided that this was going to be our day, and it didn’t matter what anybody else wanted or expected. Which brings me to where I am unsure how to handle something.
We decided to keep it small and I will not be inviting my whole family. I hate doing this, but Mr. Fireman and I simply can’t afford it. So I was thinking I would send out a little card or email explaining, we hate that we can’t invite everyone, but would love it if they would keep us in their thoughts or prayers on the day we decide to get married. And in turn I was hoping that would let them know they are special to us and we wish we could have had them there with us…
I don’t know if this would be tacky or smart. And how I would phrase it or approach the topic in a way as to not rustle anybody’s feathers.
(Sorry Ladies, that wasn’t quite as quick as I thought it would be)