(Closed) Unsure if i want to go on

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3104 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

From what you wrote it doesn’t sound like a happy and loving relationship. Think of this 10, 20, 30 years from now. This is just the beginning & you’re unhappy. This is he romantic love part and it sounds like there is not a lot of love here. Don’t stay out of fear of leaving. Stay because you’re madly in love. 

Post # 4
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@missyfh:  Are you guys still long distance?

If you feel this unhappy, and he’s unwilling to acknowledge your needs, then it’s time to move on.  A lot of guys will stop courting a girl after some time, that’s normal.  But to pull a 180, and encourage you to “find someone better….”  Ick.  Get rid of this guy.

Post # 5
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

How long have you been together? My first thought on reading your post is that he may have gotten over the honeymoon infatuation phase of the relationship and realized you aren’t as compatible as he thought. Maybe an in person visit can help you reconnect with him. Otherwise, I wouldn’t recommend marrying him since you’re unhappy in this relationship.

Post # 6
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1583 posts
Bumble bee

@missyfh:  Is this normal in your culture? I can’t relate to 15 day I love you and no dating before marriage. I wonder if your culture is machismo and now that he has you he thinks the relationship upkeep is your job?

Post # 7
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2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If you give and give and give and get nothing in return, then it’s time to walk away. This early in your relationship it should be all unicorns and rainbows and you should be ecstatically happy. I feel if you’re having such problems so early, it doesn’t bode well for the future (when you marry, live together, maybe have children…..if you can’t get along at the best of times, how will you get along at the hardest/worst/most trying?).

Post # 8
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605 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Brazil Room

I’m sure you will hear this from many people… but marriage will not make this better. You have to build a relationship into something strong before you get married or it will die. You know that this isn’t right and if it cannot be made right, don’t go through with marrying him.

 

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