- 2 months ago
Ive been seeing this guy for about a month and a half now who I’m completely enamored with, but am still a little apprehensive of.
Weve been on about 8 dates. After our last, I realized that I was starting to develop some unavoidable feelings for him. I let him know as such, and he mirrored my concerns in saying that he’s not seeing other people and that he likes me a lot and wants to keep seeing me as well. Great!
The only problem is that he doesn’t make any effort to plan dates or even ask me what my schedule is going to be like. Here’s the catch, though… he’s a first year medical student.
I truly want to believe that everything he’s telling me is the truth, I get the vibe that he’s a really great guy. Most of my intuition is telling me that everything is fine, and he’s only OK with seeing me every week and a half or two weeks because he truly is that busy. If that’s the case, I am one hundred percent okay with giving him as much space as he needs. BUT, the other part of me is telling myself that he should be making a little more of an effort. If this was a normal guy, who had a normal schedule, I would have nixed the relationship weeks ago due to the lack of initiative. But he’s not, so I don’t know how to feel.
He texts me daily, shows interest in my life and hobbies and keeps me up to date on his. We’ve specifically had a conversation in which I’ve addressed these things and he apologized and explained that he really just has a crazy schedule, and that he appreciates me understanding.
Right now I’m really just feeling like I’m sort of in Limbo, we’re exclusive but not boyfriend-girlfriend. We’re still getting to know each other, so shouldn’t he want to see me more often? He seemed to make more of an effort for the first few dates and then it petered out.
I just don’t want to waste my own time, if he’s really not that into me. I want to see where things go but I’m not sure how to feel. The thing that bothers me the most is not having absolutely any clue as to when I’m going to see him again.
Hes way worth it, if everything he’s telling me is true, but you can never be sure. How do I move forward in this situation?