(Closed) Unthoughtful or hilarious kid stuff?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Aww…poor kid.  I wouldn’t address him on Facebook – I would call up your aunt and let her know he had asked that on your Facebook and if she knew about it.  Then just explain the situation and that you can’t have him sing because of the venue restrictions and such.  You may have to talk to him directly too.

Maybe if she didn’t realize he had posted that, she will clue in a bit and realize he posts on other walls too and you will kill two birds with one stone??  Otherwise, I don’t know how to tactfully bring something like this up…unless some of the things he posts are quite inappropriate.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Could he sing at the rehearsal dinner?  Is he invited? 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m sure his parents don’t watch him on facebook, but I don’t really see that he did anything wrong. If he didn’t ask you on fb, he probably would have asked you in person if he really wanted to do it. 

12 year olds don’t really need to be “watched” while they are on the computer. I know many 12 year olds who are on facebook. Their parents watch the security settings to make sure people they don’t know can’t see their page etc, but don’t sit over their shoulder and watch every move they make on the computer. That’s a bit unrealistic. 12 year olds don’t really have internet etiquette, so yeah I’d be upset that I read about my grandfather having cancer on facebook, but I think I’d be more upset that nobody told me. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Krises: When I was 12 I certianly wasn’t allowed to be unsupervised on a computer. Nexopia (similar to facebook, but old school) was new back then and I absolutley was not allowed to be on it. There are far too many things on the internet that are not appropriate for 12, 13, 14 etc. year olds. If he’s on his mother’s account there may not be that “filter” from inappropriate links, photos, etc. I don’t think it’s unreasonable for him to be supervised.

I agree with PP that maybe you could just lightly address the subject with your aunt in person. She may not realize what he’s doing…especially if she’s not on facebook a lot or can’t see what pages he’s visited.

Haha pretty funny he has his heart set on singing….and for $25 bucks too! lol.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

I actually think it’s cute that he want to sing at the wedding.  I could totally see my 12 year-old nephew trying to do something like that (and charge me for it!) lol.  He probably thought long and hard how he could do something to be part of the wedding.  You are lucky you didn’t get a decoration request.  My 12-year old asked if he could be the one to put up streamers.  When I explained there wouldn’t be any streamers at the wedding he said – oh, ok – I’ll do the balloons then… Um… LOL

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I honestly don’t think he did anything wrong.  With your grandpa’s cancer, I’d have been ticked nobody thought to tell me BEFORE he had the chance to post a request for prayers on FB.  And I think his wanting to sing in the wedding is cute and I don’t see a problem with him asking you on FB – he’s 12!  I’d just call him and tell him that although you’d love for him to help, the venue is really strict, etc and leave it at that.  He isn’t doing anything out of line.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@SweetRose2011:  Well I am glad you were able to call and explain the situation…too bad that your aunt totally took it the wrong way though!  While it would be (possibly) cute to see him sing, I don’t know if there is a way to say no without hurt feelings on this one.  I don’t think you are being snarky – everyone is entitled to their own opinion and if you don’t want children in the wedding, that is your prerogative. Maybe you could just say something vague like “I’m sorry, but we just are not going to be able to accommodate [cousin] singing at the reception either.”  I don’t know if there is much else you can really say… 🙁  I hope this works out for you! 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe have him sing to you guys when you get back from your honeymoon or something.  I think your aunt probably put him up to it if she responded the way she did, and it may be more her idea than his.

It’s your wedding and yu shouldnt feel pressured to do or have anything happen that you’re not somfortable with.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Edit- My son sang at a friend’s wedding when he was like 3, he was the ring bearer but sang at the couples request, he sang the Titanic song and it was adorable, right before they cut the cake!

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would tell him $25 is a bit steep, and does he have references from weddings he has performed at in the past?

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