Post # 1
Me and my partner have been together for 3 years, living together for 2. He is Spanish and I am British.
In Spain it is quite traditional that the couple don’t have a proposal or a ring…they just decide to get married and then tell their friends and family once they’re booked the venue. Me and my partner have spoken a lot about getting married, even to the point we have seen venues…found one we like and pretty much know the date. However, I am a romantc and my boyfriend has said he would like to propose. We once were out shopping and I saw an antique ring that I love. He said he wanted to buy it as my engagement ring. It was too big for me so we had to take it to be resized. He gave the store his phone number and said to me ‘that is the last time you will see that ring until I propose’.
Now I can’t help but wonder when it will be. We are going away together next weekend and he knows I love December and Christmas…so maybe it’ll be then, however at the same time I want it to be a surprise and I am a little upset that it won’t be a surprise and that I have seen the ring. I know that sounds stupid.
Has anyone been in my position? Where you have seen the ring and are now waiting for a proposal??
Post # 2
Hi bee! I’m from Argentina, we don’t have proposals or engagement ring, though some people do it if theY feel like it. It wasn’t my case, we had a timeline we had discussed around the 2nd year mark, we wanted to buy an apartment together and after that, start planning the wedding. So no engagement ring for me or anything of the sort. You will find a LOT of girls in your position, there is a whole “waiting” section in the board. I hope that you get the proposal you want and that you’ll tell us how it went!
Post # 3
I know it’s romantic to think of being surprised by your proposal and your surpriae dream ring – but if you hadn’t found the ring you love whilst he was there, would you have gotten that ring? Most likely not 🙂
I think too much expectation from movies and media puts pressure on proposals. It’s amazing you and your boyfriend have such an open and honest relationship that you can talk about these things so that it something to value over a complete surprise proposal and surprise ring.
When my dad found out my boyfriend and I were talking about getting engaged, he told me my granny had left me her engagement ring when she died which I didn’t previously know about. I’m pretty sure my boyfriend now has it and that I inadvertently ruined his possible proposal while we were away before Christmas for my birthday! So I am also now waiting and I know what ring I will have – although we will get it redesigned slightly.
Post # 4
We bought the ring together, and it absolutely didn’t lessen the surprise of the proposal 🙂
Even my parents did this, 30+ years ago! So its almost a tradition at this point.
After the dozens (and dozens) of “help, I HATE my engagement ring” posts I have read on here, I am more than happy that I got to pick out the ring I will be wearing for the rest of my life.
Post # 5
My older cousin married a Chinese guy. Their engagement was a bit different. There was no surprise proposal per say but being engaged was something they talked about/planned for a year and asked for parental blessings. Then, they set the date for an engagement party at a traditional Chinese Restaurant and sent out invites.
During the party, he gave her a ring in front of everyone and then were presented to the guests as an officially engaged couple. So it was kinda like they knew ahead of time that they were gonna get engaged on March 31st for example. This might be common practice to other Asian cultures such as India or Turkey I think? Not sure but bees who know, let me know otherwise.
Post # 6
Mmm I definitely didn’t have a proposal with my ex husband. We were young (early 20s) and I was pregnant living in a foreign country (his). I was going to have to go home to my home country for the rest of my pregnancy and to give birth. We had a religious wedding ( which was necessary in his culture/religion with just his parents a few months into my pregnancy) and I wanted an engagement ring as I was going home to my country alone. Engagement diamond rings are not a traditional thing in his country, so it was all up to me. He was not enthusiastic looking at them at all – doesn’t have a romantic bone in his body. I ended getting the cheapest/smallest diamond ring I could find in a nice jewellery shop. I paid for the ring and he paid me back half (in his defence he had given up a good job that he was meant to be moving away for when he met me and was just doing freelance at the time). When we picked up the ring we went to the car and before he drove me to drop me at work I told him he had to propose 😜 At the time I was young and in love and being pregnant the lack of romance wasn’t a big deal. But he literally was the least romantic person the whole way through our relationship and marriage. When we first started dating it was just before Valentine’s Day, I was so excited that I finally had a boyfriend on Valentine’s Day and he told me he didn’t believe in Valentine’s Day!!! 😜 When we were dating they always had people at the traffic lights selling roses (very cheap), not once did he buy me one, even when I told him how much I wanted one!!! 😜
Your future husband sounds a lot more romantic! Did you get the ring? Did he propose in December?
My boyfriend knows how lacking in romance my life has been in the past and that I’m looking forward to some romance when he proposes, I don’t want anything extravagant (I’m a casual girl), just something that makes me feel loved and special 🙂
Post # 7
I was part of the ring choosing process, and knew when it was going to happen, and I still about fainted when he actually proposed. I think the way you did It is the smart way – browse these boards a while and see all the ladies not happy with rings their Fiance picked out, and be happy you won’t be one of them. You’ll still be fluttery and happy – YOURE GETTING MARRIED! Woohoo!