Unusual to have bridesmaid walk with parents?

posted 2 months ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2021 - Australia

I don’t think what you’re proposing would hurt her feelings, but it’s still 3 people walking together, so it doesn’t necessarily solve your problem. I think it would be more balanced for 2 bridesmaids plus a groomsman to walk in together than the parents and their child as a third wheel – the bridesmaids dresses presumably match or are the same colour, so is likely to look more balanced.

Where I am from, the groom and groomsmen arrive together and mingle with guests. The bridesmaids walk down the aisle by themselves.

This would be one way to avoid the uneven-ness?

 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it might hurt her feelings. Parents are seated before the wedding party enters. Having her not be a part of the wedding party entrance, kind of negates her being a bridesmaid..

If the odd numbers bother you, why not have everyone process singly? Where I live the groom and groomsmen usually enter from a side door at the front and wait at the altar. The bridal party then enters one at a time, followed by the bride and her escort if she has one.

The recessional is more casual and one groomsmen should be able to escort two bridesmaids if the rest walk in pairs.

 

Post # 5
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Helper bee

She’s young so that would look OK I guess. I would find it even better if she weren’t an adult if she were to walk with her parents but she is so never mind.

Post # 8
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Helper bee

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@g456:  What about asking her what she would prefer? She might feel special to be asked because normally the bride decides without consulting the bridesmaids. 

 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

Kind of makes it seem like she’s not a part of the wedding party.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

The music generally changes between the parents being seated and the processional. But either way, it makes it seem like she’s not a part of the bridal party. It makes more sense for one groomsman to walk with two bridesmaids. Anyone who is singled out in an unusual way will likely be uncomfortable, so I’d keep things as equitable as possible. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

It is my opinion that it would seem you are singling her out in a bad way.  Treating her like a child and pointing out how much younger she is than everyone else.  Also, it kind of seems like you probably didn’t really want her in the bridal party but it was some kind of obligation.  (not saying you feel this way, just how it would look to me as a casual observer)

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

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@g456:   put it this way … if your fiance was also an only child and your nine bridesmaids were your nine closest friends because you couldn’t imagine possibly getting married without any of the nine of them, would you make one of your friends escort your fiance’s parents down the aisle? I’m taking a stab in the dark that you wouldn’t. So if you wouldn’t have one of your friends escort his parents, you shouldn’t single her out and have her do it either.

I’m really of the opinion that stuff like this doesn’t matter. And it really really doesn’t. Nobody cares if you have a triple when the rest of them are doubles. Nobody cares how many of them are introduced and when or how. Nobody who’s attending your wedding is there to see your friends walk down an aisle. They’re there to see you and your fiance get married. So really anything and everything goes…but when it comes to potentially infantilizing his sister and treating her differently than the rest of your bridesmaids just to have even numbers vs. her feelings and making sure she feels valued and not just an extra number to be dealt with, her feelings should win out. 

She may not actually care but I’m going to guess there is a solid chance she may already feel like the odd one out or an obligation just by circumstance alone, so purposely singling her out and treating her differently would likely just confirm that for her.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper

I agree with pps that it comes off negative, like you’re trying to exclude her from the bridal party. Just match her up with another bridesmaid and groomsman and do the 3 person thing. Your OCD is not an excuse as she will still be walking in with 2’other people. Add that to the fact that you won’t see ANY of them walk down the aisle and it’s a totally moot point. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

I would let the bridesmaid sister walk solo or have one groomsmen with two bridesmaid as a PP suggested.

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