Post # 1
We are getting married in December but we are not having a Christmas or a Winter-themed wedding.
In our reception room there is a 10 foot artificial christmas tree. I asked the venue if the tree could be moved out of the room for the night of the reception because not only is it huge and takes up much needed room but it is decorated in green and bronze colors (which is a complete 180 from what colors I had planned).
The venue just told me that the tree can not be removed from the room. Needless to say I am not a happy camper. I don’t know what to do. I really do not want that tree in my reception room. I am a person who pays attention to details so if the tree is in the room it will be the only thing I notice.
What should I do?
Post # 3
Hmmm…is this something you just realized? Not sure there IS much you can do if they aren’t willing to move it.
We had a similar issue with my daughter’s venue at the beach, which was a yacht club. They had these multi colored banners going across the walls, as well as pictres of the current and former admirals of the club. When I asked that the banners/flags be removed for the day of, I was told no. A few months later (and I’m guessing that because many others who were planning weddings there had requested the same thing), they told us that we COULD remove them and they’d do it the day before for us. It’s possible the same thing could happen for you. I’d keep trying!
Post # 3
@islanderbride: Contact the venue again and ask to speak to one of the higher ups. You are paying to get married there, if they can’t remove the tree for one night to accommodate your wedding that is unreasonable. Express that this was not revealed to you when you booked your event and had you known this you would not have chosen that space.
Post # 4
When we first went to look at the venue the manager wasn’t sure if it could be removed, they had to speak to the general manager I guess.
We are renting out the entire top floor plus a minimum of 10 additional hotel rooms…I don’t feel it would be unreasonable to ask why they can’t have it moved. Most artificial trees come apart in 3 pieces…
Post # 5
I completely agree with @KatyElle. Don’t take no for an answer.
Post # 6
@KatyElle: I wouldn’t agree with this. I’m getting married at an art gallery and it clearly states in the contract that there will be art displayed in our ceremony and reception areas, and it cannot be changed without a few weeks notice and a huge penalty (one that would likely cost more than the price of the venue rental).
That being said, I’m sure if the OP was willing to pay a penalty (i.e. if they have to get a scissor lift to take it down and 8 hrs of labour), then they should agree with it.
Post # 7
Well I spoke with the venue today and the tree is staying. They said logistically it is just too big to move. They can’t even move it to another corner of the room so it is less conspicuous.
So my new question is this: The venue uses bronze and an apple green for their Christmas colors. Do I use these colors for my wedding or do I just ignore the tree all together and pick my own wedding colors?
I guess one alternative would be to see if I can change my wedding date. There are 2 problems with this solution.
1. Our wedding date has a lot of meaning to us.
2. I’ve already booked my officiant and photographer and am not sure if changing my date is even possible with them (I know I shouldn’t have done this until my venue was booked but I panicked because things book up VERY quickly where I live.).
I really value the beehive’s imput so thank you in advance for your advice.
Post # 8
@islanderbride: are you totally against a christmas themed wedding? I went to one this year and it was fabulous! so pretty and totally got you in the holiday spirit. They had ornaments as favors – little christmas trees and wreaths with candles as centerpieces. they even had carolers at cocktail hour. I know its not for everyone but something to think about. I think it can be really beautifully done but again you only get married once and you don’t want to have to conform to your space ya know?
Have you already paid for your venue? do you have the opportunity to change it even if you lose a little bit of the deposit?
Post # 9
I know this is super annoying, and I’d be pretty upset, too.
I had a bit of a similar experience. Our church started construction on the interior just six weeks before our wedding. So some of the interior was blocked off, and then the outside of our gorgeous, picturesque church on our wedding day were two nasty dumpsters and two of those huge storage/moving pods. I was furious and really disappointed.
But honestly, our guests didn’t even notice. I asked our photographer to avoid getting them in any shots at all costs. And on my wedding day, I didn’t even notice them, and I hardly even remember them being there. I was too wrapped up in the magic of the day.
I know it’s a little different because the tree is in your reception room, but I think that it won’t be as big a deal as you expect. You will be so wrapped up in the magic of the day that you probably won’t even notice.
And just to be safe…ignore the colors on the tree. You don’t need to change your colors to match those. Obviously, I’ve not seen the tree, but I really think that it won’t be quite the focal point you’re afraid it will be. Because your wedding is in the middle of December, I think your guests will just be used to seeing Christmas trees around. Your night will still be special, and you and your new husband will still be the main event!
I think by not playing into the colors on the tree, you’ll make clear that your wedding isn’t a Christmas one. You can also ask your photographer to try to avoid having the tree in shots when possible.
Hang in there hun! Your wedding will still be amazing and special. 🙂
Post # 10
I know I could ignore the tree colors but the reception room is very small. It can only fit 30 people so it’s not like the tree will be off in a corner…with its location and size, there is no ignoring it. I think I should go with a color scheme that compliments the charteuse and bronze…maybe teal and dark purple or navy blue, chartreuse and gray?
Post # 11
@islanderbride: I would agree that using colors that go with those on the tree is the best idea. A 10 foot tree in a small room cannot be ignored. Your suggestion of teal and dark purple would be beautiful- nice and warm for the season but not traditional “Christmassy” at all.