Post # 16
Loupyloo: Gifts are such a kind thought but an unfortunate spend of money when it’s not something you will use. Hermes baby blanket? Tiffany sterling silver rattles and piggy banks, I hear you. We discussed with our families that the gifts were so thoughtful but we already have so much stuff and are really trying not to spoil our child so if they felt the need to buy something for our baby it would be great to buy savings bonds. Think of what the bonds would be worth accumulated over 18 years! THey are pretty money savvy so it has worked so far. Certainly not as exciting of a gift to open now but it will be one day when our grown child cashes them in!! I hope that helps, best wishes!
Post # 17
Loupyloo: I’d say just accept them and put them on the baby when he is around. If he gives too many maybe you can sell them? I wouldn’t mention something as not to offend them because it is them giving you gifts 🙂
Post # 18
I don’t wear labels, but I personally don’t see a problem. They’re gifts. They’re all going to get spit up on, pooped on, food-ed on, loved on. They grow out of them so quickly anyway. I don’t know why you would need to feel embarassed. I can’t imagine that anyone worth caring about will judge your baby either way if they see them wearing designer clothing.
Post # 19
You should thank them graciously and whip out the Gucci when grandpa visits (lol!!!). Then when the babys grown out of it you sell that shit on eBay for a few hundred a piece. Everyone wins.
Post # 20
Everyone loves babies and baby clothes, and chances are that he and his new wife are super excited. They mean well, but its just not your thing – which is fine.. not mine either. As PPs say, dress the baby in those clothes when you know you will see them. If you can return some, then do so. I wouldn’t get rid of all of them though because I’m sure your dad would be hurt. If this is the worst that you have to deal with, then count yourself lucky.
Post # 21
Thank you for all the replies. I think they confirm what I was thinking was best, I won’t say anything and will put the baby in the clothes when he is around. I love my Dad and am happy that he is excited about the baby, I suppose it just makes me sad that splashing the cash is how he tends to express himself recently and yes, I do wish things were different. If that makes me a judgemental person, then so be it.
justwondering2015: I wasn’t really asking for opinions on anything other than how to handle these gifts, but thanks for sharing – you are clearly a much better and wiser person than I am for witholding your judgement in a similar situation.
Post # 22
Loupyloo: I think you should approach this the same way you would if someone gave your child any outfit that you weren’t a fan of. Let LO wear the outfits only when grandpa is around. The fact that LO will outgrow them very quickly actually workd in your favor sicne you can just sell them as soon as they become too small.
Post # 23
Loupyloo: I’m going to disagree with PP and say don’t dress the baby in them. They are GIFTS and you choose how to make use of them. If I were you I’d return or consign them and put the money in a college fund instead. If Grandpa sees the baby wearing the clothes it will just encourage him to buy more. If he asks say where they are you can gently say “I’m sorry dad I didn’t want to hurt your feelings but we exchanged them for something more practical.”
Post # 24
I’d be more upset that dad is spending so much unnecessary money on the labels than not wanting to dress my child in them because my social circle doesn’t. I would accept them graciously and leave it at that! Let your child wear them, and if they’re such great quality you can likely consign them once he’s grown out of them. Enjoy having grandpa spoil your little one.
Post # 25
dress baby in Gucci when Grandpa visits, smile sweetly and say thank you because his heart is in the right place, and then donate those clothes to a charity to seall and make better use of. Win, win, win.
Post # 26
Baby designer clothing irks me as well, not least because I dislike brands emblazoned on everything. Put the kid in them once, send him a picture, and then don’t feel guilty about selling/donating it. If he asks about it again (and it’s too early for baby to have outgrown it) just tell him that the baby had a major blow-out and ruined it 😉 maybe he’ll tell his wife to stop wasting money on clothes that end up covered in poop/vomit.
justwondering2015: She doesn’t have to judge him on his choices, but she doesn’t have to dress her baby in something she doesn’t want to, either. It’s his money but it’s her kid.
Post # 27
LilliV: THIS. Seeing the baby in the clothes will only encourage it and then you’ll have a REAL problem on your hands.
Post # 28
Loupyloo: Keep a few outfits, Ebay the rest. Put the money towards something important for the baby (a college fund?). Dress the baby in the very few outfits you kept when Dad’s around and take photos. If Dad asks where all the other outfits are, just say you had forgotten about them in the amount of clothing you received. Maybe that would hint to him that labels aren’t important to you.
OR Re-gift the designer clothes?
You have plenty of options without having to talk to Dad. Unfortunately, talking to someone about their choice of gift to you will be considered rude by most people… But it could work depending what kind of relationship you have with your Dad.
Post # 29
My grandmother bought my son some really ugly clothes. I just put them on him and sent her pics. Then traded them at one of those baby clothes trade stores for different clothes.
Post # 30
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I would save one or two to put on the baby when your dad is around, and sell the rest of that shit on eBay!