(Closed) unwanted gift coming…?

posted 8 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Should I ask someone to change their gift idea to us?
    No! Just keep them : (31 votes)
    84 %
    Yes! Ask for something you need. : (6 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    46675 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would thank him for his offer , then ask him if he would be willing to take some shots at your wedding. Maybe he doesn’t know that you are not going  to have a photographer.

    Post # 4
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Honestly, I think you should just let him give you the gift and accept it graciously. It is the gift givers decision of what they want to give you and it would seem rude to try and dictate what he should give you. Who knows, you may really like it.(?)

    I would be a little hurt and offended if someone shot down my gift idea. Especially since it seems like their might be a bit of work involved in it. Just because they have money does not mean anything. This seems like he is trying to give you something a little more personal.

    Post # 5
    2091 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I wouldn’t actually ask him to change his gift idea, but I would mention to him that you have very limited wall space. 

    Post # 6
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @julies1949: I like this idea too but I don’t know if i’d personally have the gall to ask him.

    Post # 7
    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think he would be honored to take photos at your wedding.  I would go with that!

    Post # 8
    939 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I would probably mention to him subtley that you have limited wall space and don’t really have room for such things and ask him to take pictures at your wedding.  It’s true that it’s the gift givers decision on what to give you, but if you were the gift giver wouldn’t you want to give something people could actually use? 

    Post # 9
    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would tell him thank you first.  Then something like you wish you had the space to enjoy them, but your apartment is very small so you would be unable to hang them. 

    Maybe then mention that you would love for him to sendyou the shots he takes digitally instead, since you won’t have an official photographer, you would appreciate his perspective.

    Good luck!

    Post # 10
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Personally I think its rude to ask him for something else. Just graciously accept his gift.

    Post # 11
    931 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    To be perfectly honest, since gifts are not *required* at a wedding, it seems really questionable to say no thank you, much less ask for something else. Sorry.

    Post # 12
    352 posts
    Helper bee

    I think you should discuss it with your fiance and his family. If it were me I would have my parents kinda hint to them that I had limited wall space and that I was hoping, for example, I would get my stand mixer because I love to bake.

    Otherwise, I would just accept the gift. I wouldn’t come right out and say I didn’t want their gift and get me something I requested.

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