(Closed) Unwanted Groomsman

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

If your Fiance really wants to include him, he should be able to. He should choose who he wants to stand with him up there.

That said, if you Fiance really does not want him up there but is being guilt tripped into thinking he should do so, then he does not have to. You FI’s cousin will just have to deal.

Post # 4
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I don’t think wedding parties require reciprocity.  I just wouldn’t ask him.  If I really felt the need to justify my decision, I might get together with him for drinks and explain that my future wife doesn’t have as many excellent candidates as I did, so he had to cut down 🙂

Post # 7
2547 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I kind of get his point to be honest. Its pretty much proper etiquette that you would extend the invite towards the cousin. Just out of respect kinda thing. However I do not know the details, and if they really are as horrid as you make it sound then your fiance needs to be a man, step up to the plate and tell the cousin the reasons why he didn’t want to involve him in the wedding party.

Post # 8
46672 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I like Sapphire Sun’s idea.

 Clearly there is no such thing as reciprocity in wedding parties , otherwise you would see the same people in all weddings in the same family.


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