- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
I will preface this post not saying that I’m not necessarily looking for answers. Just somewhere to talk to people. I’m a pretty private person even with family and friends.
So I just recently got married in April. Things just aren’t the way I imagined. So, I have known my husband for nearly 13 years. We lost track and did not talk for about 4 Years. When we reconnected it was like we were meant to be together. He was the man I had been looking for. A man who loved God, his family. A man who had respect for me, didn’t use lots of foul language, didn’t smokewere like like peas and carrots. Well, about a year into our relationship one of my husbands friends has a baby and he buys said friend a cigar to celebrate the occasion. Only after that he starts smoking. i don’t smoke. I hate the smell. I hate the look. He tried to sneak doing it but I knew the very first time he did it and confronted him. He promised that he would quit. Well, here we are over a year after he started and he is still at it. It is so disheartening. I can honestly say if when we had reconnected if he was a smoker I would not have pursued a relationship. Anytime now that I try to bring it up it just causes a fight. I feel like I was lied to. He has even said that maybe I should not have married him, but I did on the understanding that he would quit. He has not her up on his part. Now whenever I see him I get resentful towards hI’m. I don’t want to hold hands cause I don’t want to stink. I don’t want to kiss an ashtrays. I don’t even go to bed usually cause he smokes right before getting in to bed. I absolutely hate it. And the. We can be having a good time but even that has to be interrupted by a smoke break. I just don’t know what to do. I’m not happy. I don’t want a divorce. I have tried to help him. Asked what I can do and he just keeps saying he is going to quit. Ugh!!