- 7 years ago
Hello ladies, it’s been a while 🙂
I talked to my SO three months ago about engagement, after several months of silence. During that talk, we basically agreed that it would make more sense for us to have a slightly longer engagement (like two years) for financial & career reasons, and that the engagement was not too far away (we’re talking months, not years). Since then I haven’t really talked about it, but now I think I have felt a shift in our relationship. It might be my imagination running wild though, so I would like to hear your perspective on this.
First of all, SO’s sister got engaged a couple of weeks ago. Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy for her as she had been with her now fiance for 10 years already. One very selfish part of me wonders, however, if this will delay my own engagement. Will just have to wait and see, I suppose.
Here is the very subtle shift I have felt: my SO has been very enthusiastic lately when talking about our future together, he seems to happy now when we talk about marriage. A couple of weeks ago he brought it up himself, asking me if I wanted a theme for the wedding, and he asked several questions about my married friends’ engagement and wedding rings, and he’s been talking a lot about how we are going to spend the rest of our lives together.
Another thing is that he has suddenly become very concerned with saving money. We went to the cinema last week, and when I was getting sweets, he said “How much does that cost? I am trying to save money”. We always get sweets when we go the the cinema, and this is the first time he has expressed any sort of concern over the cost of the sweets… May I add that he just started a new job, which came with a payrise, so it’s not like we’re in financial difficulties and need to save money for that reason.
Today he was shopping for CDs (he collects them and has the biggest collection I have seen) online, and he said “I am just buying some CDs with the money I got for my birthday, ’cause I haven’t bought any CDs for a while. I always used to buy lots of CDs before”. I asked him why he hasn’t bought any for a while, and he said “I just got concerned about spending my money on it”. I didn’t say anything, and he suddenly seemed weird and defensive and said “Why, you sound like you already have a specific idea as to why I haven’t been buying CDs!”. Again, I thought this was a very odd remark for him to make.
I asked him last night if he is going to ask my dad for permission. To be honest, it’s not particularly important for me if he does or not, but he is a bit more traditional when it comes to stuff like that. He smiled at me and said “You’ll have to wait and see!”. So I have no idea if he already has asked, or if he is going to at all.
My waiting brain is hoping that this sudden concern with saving money and frequently talking about our future means that he saving up for a ring and is planning the proposal. My birthday is coming up in three months and deep down I am hoping that he will do it then.
Sorry, this was a very long post, just needed to get it off my chest 🙂