Update #2: Divorce at 25: Plan in Motion

posted 3 months ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Seems like you’re moving in the right direction. How the hell does he work once a week? Stay strong, bee. 💕

Post # 5
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78 posts
Worker bee

You got this ❤ I’m glad you are getting away from him. He’s not good for you in any way. 

Your story sounds so similar to mine that for the first time, I actually see why my friends and family were relieved that I could never marry my ex. 

Post # 6
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575 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2021

Definitely divide take your money and valuables before you serve him because that will be a very ugly day with a narcissist. PM me if you need to vent and/or I have an awesome support group on FB I can add you to for divorced ladies in the 20s/30s. 

Post # 7
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283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m glad that you’re able to realize that this is not right and do something to move forward. Good for you! When it gets hard, just think about where you could/will be 2 years from now. 

 

We’re proud of you and here for support if you need it! ❤️

Post # 8
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189 posts
Blushing bee

Was he working a full time job or in school when you got married?

Post # 9
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1957 posts
Buzzing bee

Good for you bee! You’re a tough cookie, i hope you’re really proud of yourself for making the decision that is best for YOU! I second the PP who suggested splitting your money before you serve him. If he has control over all the finances, he will make sure you dont have access to anything without a real fight. I would suggest opening an account in just your name and transferring some money over just before you serve him. Don’t be greedy, just take what you’re entitled to. Also make sure your pay cheque is deposited into the new account.

As for serving him, you can do that however you’d like. You can have a sit-down conversation with him where you explain that you’re unhappy, that his inability to empathize with you and reluctance to attend marriage counselling has stayed any efforts you’ve made to mend the relationship. You dont have to sit him down and talk to him about it, but I know I would feel better knowing I at least tried to have a convo with him. If he blows up or wont listen to you, thats on him and theres nothing you can do at that point.. just serve the papers and be done.

Post # 10
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596 posts
Busy bee

I’m all for working on relationships since mine was plenty hard the first 5 years like many are, but I think you are doing the right thing by moving on. I’m sorry things haven’t gone easier.

Post # 11
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

OH, thank you for the peek into what my life would have been if I had followed up on marrying the first loser I was engaged to. 

A peek into your future life: if you believe in yourself and apply for good jobs, you can purchase your own home in a few years, maybe ten. You will find a guy who is as driven as you are, and you will realize that a partner who has ambition is what you wanted all along. You will travel together, laugh together, and do things together!

Run, don’t walk away from this free loader!

Post # 14
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307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Looks like you did everything right right and this your last option. Great news on your job update!

Remember we are all here rooting for you. It will be very difficult but think of what your life will be like once it is done. So many wonderful opportunities await you. Keep us updated! Gia xo

Post # 15
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6426 posts
Bee Keeper

welikeshinystuff :  I just wanted to say you’re handling this all brilliantly. I’m excited for your future! 

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