(Closed) UPDATE: Asked to throw bridal shower. Don't know bride

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sounds like her friends are as bat shit crazy as she is.  I’d post those messages to facebook and show eeryone what really happened.  Why isn’t Groom or Brothers standing up for you if they know the truth.

Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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loneranger13:  Oh, something else. I would stop deleting messages, texts, and voicemails and take them to the cops. They can be used to press charges and get restraining orders. This bride and her friends/family are fucking crazy. It seems you got all the heat while the groom dodged a bullet. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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OldMrsMcDonald:  When she said no, the bride went crazy verbally abusing her. With her continued resistance, she began to spread lies to her fiance, friends, and family, saying that OP had been the one bashing her and saying horrible things. A big fight broke out where she and her fiance confronted OP and her brother (who joined her side after seeing the messages and realizing the truth). The fiance didn’t believe her until she showed him the messages as well (something the bride tried to stop him from doing) and realized the bride had been lying about the entire thing, causing many problems for OP. He storms off and the bride has a fit that OP ruined everything.

I don’t have a link to the old post handy, but that’s roughly what I remember from it. 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

Don’t delete anything!  You need all the evidence you have for cops/restraining order/lawyer!

 

Hell, knowing myself, I would have posted screenshots of everything on Facebook.  Crazy B****’s friends and family are only getting her half of the story, and they can’t (sanely) argue evidence when the truth is out there for all to see.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee

Holy cow I want to cry for you. You poor thing. I hope you’re able to get away from all that. My goodness, I can’t believe anyone could be so CRUEL.

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Holy crap. This is probably one of the most insane updates I’ve read in a long time.

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

loneranger13: I just can’t get over how you feel unsafe in your own home. That makes my blood boil. You most definitely didn’t do anything to warrant such treatment, you handled her outrageous request with graciousness (and truthfullness – you really were busy that weekend!). WTF is wrong with this girl?!?!?

I would set up security cameras around your home, try to catch the people on camera, get good face shots. I would save all facebook messages (and I would personally put the facebook page back up and try to track the people who are threatening you, try to trace them back and connect them to the girl – ie are all these people friends of hers? She is the common denominator). Start gathering your own evidence to submit to the police – hopefully soon you will be able to press charges.

I know you want this all to just go away. I would too. But honestly you need to get PISSED at this girl, she just uses threats and intimidation to get what she wants, no matter how uncomfortable and unsafe she makes people feel. Make sure she has serious consequences for her atrocious actions! Otherwise, she will just continue to do these sorts of things to other people. Hopefully legal fees, court, a record, and maybe jail time (one can hope, right?!) might straighten her out a bit. Dear lord.

Also, I strongly suggest you paste some messages up on facebook to expose this girl’s lies. You may think that keeping out of it is a good idea, but im kinda a bitch and I think turning this all around on her and exposing the truth would go a LONG way towards getting her friends to back off you (and distancing themselves from her) and making her think twice before twisting the truth again. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

Girl you need to start standing up for yourself and putting the truth out there for everyone to see.  This is the only way you will be able to protect yourself.  The more you don’t say anything at all and allow this kind of assault and abuse to happen [all over FB], the more people will begin to doubt you and start to believe the rantings of this absolute batsh*t crazy f*cktard.

I’m not saying you should get into the ring and start flinging insults and fighting words back at this b*tch.  BUT you need to put ALL of the verbal assaults out in the open and allow EVERYONE to see the truth.

In addition, I’m pretty sure FB has terms and conditions around cyber-bullying and people becoming extremely hostile and abusive.  I would absolutely contact the FB Admin and let them know what this crazy f*ck and her friends are doing to you all over FB.  In addition, you need to post ALL of the messages and convos that occurred with this girl (screen capture is probably best) so that people can see that it is HER that is doing all of this all by herself.

Secondly, I would also file a police report and talk to them about getting a restraining order, etc.  I would show them all of the threatening messages you have been getting, and ask what you can do to protect yourself.  They might tell you they can’t do anything to her since she didn’t physically assault you, BUT you need to start a paper trail.  And having the authorities on your side is the best move.

Look, the more you stay silent on this the more you’re going to get hurt.  Get up, get moving, and PROTECT yourself.  This sh*t is no joke.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

holy crap! thats just insane. i would like to know where her x-FI is with all of this? does he know how freaking nuts she is? i think it’s time to get nasty like some of the PP’s have said and post stuff on FB, install cameras, hey take out an ad in the paper and post her messages to you from FB! lol. time to get mean. it seems the cops cant do crap until something bad reallly happens. but get your brothers involved, your family even her x-FI. you shouldnt have to go through this alone. and you especially shouldnt have to MOVE! what a crazy bitch.. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee

I forgot you mentioned in your OP that your house got egged, etc.  This is actually a “good” thing for you, because when you call the cops you will have more physical evidence as to the physical assaults you are experiencing.

Given the level of crazy with this girl, who knows what she and her friends will resort to next.  Crazy mob mentality is extremely dangerous, and when a group of stupid people get very riled up there is nothing that can stop them until they draw the blood they are after.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

You should press harrassment and vandalism charges, get a restraining order, and a security system. Save everything that is sent to you, or said to you on voicemail. Take pictures of damages to your house and other property.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m sorry, but when it gets to the point where you feel so unsafe that you consider moving, it’s time for you to get angry at the people making you feel that way. They think they are winning by you staying silent and that will only make them do more. It’s time for you to get angry and stand up for yourself! Log everything that happens, go to the police and do what needs to be done to stop this crazy bitch. There are plenty if people on these boards alone who are behind you. 

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

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OldMrsMcDonald:  this. Sometimes I just don’t believe these stories….

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

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Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

After reading your last post about that girl this type of behavior doesn’t surprise me at all. What are the police doing to help?

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