(Closed) UPDATE: Asked to throw bridal shower. Don't know bride

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 31
3010 posts
Sugar bee

How unbelievably horrible for you.

Your brother’s friend and the friend’s parents have to take responsibility and talk to the police about this unhinged girl and even talk to the girl herself.  Your parents and brother must put pressure on them to do this.  

You must get further advice from the police.  If you are frightened ask your brother and/or parents to stay with you. Keep all evidence.


Post # 32
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Save EVERYTHING. Do not delete messages, voicemails, etc. Take pictures of any damage made and then head down to your police department and ask to file a TRO (temporary restraining order).

When I was in college I broke up with a guy who did not want to break up. He made me really nervous, was jealous, and verbally abusive. I never put up with that from anyone else, so why would I put up with it from some guy I met at school? All of those traits intensified when I broke up with him and I went through the exact same harrassment you are going through now. I went to the police station, had everything printed out, voicemails on hand from him, etc and filed a TRO. And guess what? It scared the crap out of him. So much so he left me alone and I never had to feel unsafe again.

The most important thing is that you feel safe in your own home. It’s not fair that you are looking to just give up and move. Why should you have to? You did NOTHING wrong and you need to protect yourself. Getting a TRO may be a step in the right direction. I waited a really long time to get one because I figured it was easier just to put up with the nonsense…it would eventually stop, right? WRONG. It just got worse. 

Go with your brothers or a friend for some extra support. My dad came with me as my bonus backbone 🙂 As much as he wanted to ring the kid’s neck, he knew going about it this way was much smarter and safer. 

Hope this helps! 

Post # 33
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Just read the other thread and WTF. Those are some crazy a** b*tches. All I can say is hang in there and document, document, document everything. Could you maybe install a security cam? They have went down in price, you can pick them up at home depot.

Post # 34
1286 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Holy sh*t! whar a fucking c*nt!

Try to get a restraining order… what the hell is wrong with those people!

Post # 35
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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loneranger13:  I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this! *gigantic internet hug* 

I definitely agree on security cameras. Can you request a drive by at a certain time of time by an officer if you’re feeling unsafe? Restraining orders would be a good thing too.

I honestly cannot comprehend how in the absolute hell this has escalated to this degree. I have no words on how awful those people must be. 

Post # 36
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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loneranger13:  I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Keep everything. In fact I would look at the possibility of re-activating your facebook so you can get back the old abusive messages. Try sending an email to facebook support. You never know, it might work.

I would not move house. Does anyone live with you? Can anyone move in for a while?

Post # 37
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I wish you have never deleted the original messages that started this mess. I would’ve sent those messages to every one of her friends that are harassing you. So they could see the truth the way her Fiance did. I can’t stand people who feel entitled to demand things from anyone and act like that when they are rejected. I am so furious for you that she did this to you. Two negatives don’t make a positive but sometimes I just want to give those people a taste of their own medicine. So sorry op. 

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