(Closed) UPDATE: Bride thinks she gets a whole year – I AM SO UPSET!

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1639 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MissMaya:  I would still send her an invite knowing she will decline and afterwards let the friendship cool off.

I read your last post. As long as your BFF will go to your wedding then great!

As for the NY trip, you can bow out by saying “Funds are low becasue we are starting a new life” and then use the same reasoning for the bach party.

Make yourself unavailable and let the friendship die an unnoticed death. If the bride is as bitchy as you say, she won’t notice.

Post # 4
1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@MissMaya:  I too read your last post and it appears she is trying to “one up” you in every aspect of wedding planning AND she is trying to get under your skin with the fuckry and unfortunately she is succeeding. All I have to go off of is what you’ve posted about her and from what I read, she doesnt really seem to know what being a friend is. Well at least a friend to you so maybe its time for the friendship to end like LuvMySailor suggested. 

People are in your life one day and gone the next. Dont stress about shit you cannot change and her/her wedding plans fall into the category. If your BFF is standing by your side and that’s what’s most important to you then screw the rest.

As for the other girls… you have been shown with whom their loyalty lies so maybe lopping off those friends too or at the very least distancing yourself isnt such a bad idea

Post # 5
5033 posts
Bee Keeper

She sounds like a total cow 🙁

Post # 7
6554 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MissMaya:  major bitch.

Call me crazy, but I feel like she picked the place in Jamaica on purpose to judge you on where you are having your wedding which is beyond bitch.

Invite her, she will decline, and so will her minions. I pity the man marrying her.

Enjoy your HAPPY and AWESOME life without her

Post # 8
160 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

She sounds just like my ex-BFF/MOH.. everything was always “me me me”.  When it was her birthday she wanted the entire month to celebrate.  Especially when she was planning her wedding 5 months before mine everything was about her, eventhough I was also planning my wedding & when my wedding rolled around she could care less.

Needless to say we are no longer friends and I am so happy I no longer have to put up with her 🙂

Post # 10
714 posts
Busy bee

@MissMaya:  This is so unbelievable. Sorry you have to deal with this. I totally agree with pp, tell her that you can’t pay for crazy travels like that…

Post # 11
12259 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

What a Crazy Daisy!


I’d invite her, assume (and pray) she won’t show, and hope that your girls have the good sense to attend a WEDDING instead of a wildly overpriced bachelorette party!

Post # 13
523 posts
Busy bee

@MissMaya:  Your BFF sounds AWESOME!!!!

Seriously, you are, if anything, underreacting. However, there’s not much you can do (so major kudos for your BFF calling her out on her shit).

Itr sounds like the best bet is to see what these other ladies do and take your cues from their actions. If they aren’t able to bow out of some of this girl’s pre-wedding schenanigans to ATTEND YOUR WEDDING then you have  a really good idea of how important you are to them.

Post # 14
5033 posts
Bee Keeper

@MissMaya:  Props to your BFF for calling her out on her bullshit. Good luck with your plans xxx

Post # 15
1839 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MissMaya:  It doesn’t make any sense… How are my friends supposed to afford two trips to the same place within one year? Especially since they’re all BMs in her wedding, what choice do they have now?


that’s not really your problem. i’m sure they would choose your wedding over her trip if they can’t afford both.
eta: and it looks like your bff already did.  good.


Post # 16
922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

what the heck?! what kind of friend says they can’t make it to yor wedding because they are too busy planning their own???

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