Post # 1
It’s OVER between fiance and i. He finally called and said to me that he has made his mind, its over. I knew it was over already. I just kept thinking maybe he will change his mind. I felt so much pain at the moment that i needed to regroup myself. But after two hours i feel relieved…i feel hopeful. I feel like i can finally find myself. I feel like i have been mourning this relationship for two weeks already. I have cried so much during these two weeks. I am heartbroken and it hurts me so much that is over. But i love myself. And my inner strenght is shining through…something that i didnt know i had. Something that i thought i would never have. I am alone. I am standing on my own…and i feel stronger then ever! There is so much i want to do with my life that i dont even know where to begin. I just that i will be ok. I pray to GOd that i will be able to find myself and hopefully one day fall in love again. Bees thank you for the encouragement to be a strong person….i will be getting there little by little. I feel like he set me free. It such a weird feeling. But of course at the same time i am in so much pain. I can barely breathe. Bees please keep me in you thoughts. Promise to keep you updated.
Post # 3
Hugs butterfly, I’ve been following your story. You’ll find that someone! Stick around. We’d love to have you!
Post # 4
@butterfly1988: *hugs* to you OP! You have such strength and you are really an inspiration. I wish I had been able to read your story when I was 19 and going through my first bad break up — I know reading this will help other bees going through a tough time. I will keep you in my thoughts and please let us know if you ever need a shoulder to lean on!
Post # 5
*Hugs* I’m sorry you have to go through this. You are so strong and I know this is a difficult time but you will get through all right. Your in my thoughts. XOXOX
Post # 6
@butterfly1988: you will find love again and this time it will be amazing because you will know who you are.
Post # 7
Thank you guys so much. I’m still in a lot of pain…and it hasn’t really hit me that I’m not longer with him. I want to cry and just runaway. I feel so heartbroken. I told my closest friends. And it was difficult to let them know….when will this pain go away…trying to keep my head up…
Post # 8
@butterfly1988: ((HUGS)) Grieving is a process that sometimes takes one step forward and two steps back. Keep re-reading your original post on this thread, though. It’s amazing! You have a lot of inner strength and you will heal from this. You will have a wonderful life and find your true love some day, the one who will never leave you. Keep the faith in that and in yourself.
Post # 9
*Hugs* I know you won’t see it this way for a long time but trust me it’s for the best. Any guy who can’t decide whether he wants to be with you, wavering back and forth between breaking up and maybe trying to work things out-it’s not worth your time. You want (and deserve!!) a man who never wants to lose you, who wants to work through the issues together.
I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that you will find that right guy and you will be so much stronger for your struggles.
All the best. Please feel free to keep posting here. I know that most bees have had a horrible breakup (I definitely did) and are only too willing to be there for another girl.
Post # 10
Heartbreak suxs, but wow, it has a way of making you such a strong, better person (if you dont let it turn you bitter). Like PP’s have said, it will be a long process and some days will be better than others. Fill your time with activities and keep yourself busy until the pain isnt as bad. But dont shove aside or try to hide from the feelings. Sometimes you just need to feel the feelings even if that leaves you crying in a ball in the middle of the room.
And dont start dating anyone, even casually. You need time to be just yourself without someone elses desires, wants and needs swaying you.