- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
I have posted about this before, regarding my best friend from 8th grade and how she’s changed a lot (and not for the better) in the past few years and my recent disappointment her with regard to my wedding.
Here is my original post from a couple weeks ago:
I’m sorry, that’s the lazy way, but I just couldn’t “recap” it, it’s too long! 😉
Anyway I was just wanting to update y’all and ask for feedback because I FINALLY heard from her. I guess her daughter bugged her enough and she sent me a facebook message last night that said, basically, that she is sorry about not having been in touch, that she was trying to find a way to come to the wedding and she just doesn’t have the money, and how she was being an “ostrich” because she felt so bad about it and that’s why she hasn’t been in touch.
At this point I’m just wondering HOW to respond to her. I could just say “Okay, I understand”, but dangit, I don’t understand.
Maybe I am just being a grudge-holding b**ch but I just feel like she is not coming because it was not a priority for her.
And like I said in my original post I would normally NEVER presume to second-guess someone’s financial situation, but I KNOW her and I know that she manages to find the cash to fly to and fro to see her boyfriend several times a year. I also know that her dad, having known me since I was a teen and having always been very fond of me, would most likely assist her or let her use his car to drive up. something. I just think, or I guess KNOW deep down that in this case it’s not “can’t” but “won’t” because she didn’t feel it was important enough to plan for. 🙁
And anyway, I don’t know what to say to her. Part of me wants to tell her that this is yet another example of her horrid self-absorbed behavior lately and that I was not surprised at all. Part of me wants to tell her OFF, you know?
I would bet money that she will manage to fly to her BF’s for spring break though (when our wedding is).