- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 1969
Hi, all. I wrote this post just over a year ago, and it popped into my head today so I looked up it again.
I just wanted to thank anyone who posted there for all the good wishes, and to this community at large for being so supportive.
While my divorce ended up being incredibly ugly (he stole my engagement ring AGAIN and it turns out he had been cheating on me, for six months!!!), I’m now about a year out and I CANNOT BELIEVE how much happier I am now than at any time ever during my relationship with him. I took about nine months to get myself together, recouping from his emotional abuse and all the divorce nastiness and earning a license in my professional field. (I joked that it takes nine months to create a new life, even if you’re not giving birth!) I then moved to an area I’ve always wanted to live in, and started my own business. I’m still getting it off the ground, so it’s still in the “scarily risky” stage, but just knowing that I’m back in control of my own fate is so rewarding. As is knowing, deep down, that I will never be in a relationship where I allow myself to be treated as poorly as I was in my marriage.
Throughout this process, I’ve learned how much I really can rely on my friends and family. I include you all (even those of you who weren’t here when I posted), because this community was really supportive and wonderful.
If any of you are going through anything even remotely similar, please just know that things can — and do — get better.