(Closed) Update: Drama started by someone who didn’t come to the wedding

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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565 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@mandb122: Thanks for the update. And I am sorry this negative energy had to be put with your wedding memories 🙁 . I  don’t think you’re being immature at all, there is no reason for you to keep provoking it when everyone should prob. just move on. It was incredibly rude for him to start all of this though, you would think a 33 year old would have better things to do . People never stop suprising me with their immaturity though.

Post # 4
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1011 posts
Bumble bee

Is your cousin married?  I’m starting to think that he’s actually jealous that you are married . . . especially if your brother is too!

I guess we usually think girls are like this, but guys get jealous too!

Post # 6
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1011 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t think it justifies it, but it certainly explains it.  Maybe he’s bitter that he couldn’t afford to make the trip too?

I think you should find a photo with your mom’s side of the family and email it to all of them (or send a print) with a short note, thanking them for coming and saying you hope they had a good time.  Send one to your cousin too and say something like, “We would have been really happy had you been able to join us too!” or something like that and then leave.  He can interpret it any way he wants.

Post # 7
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Oh sheesh. I think deleting him is as adult a response as you could manage. Think of it more as calmly walking out of a room instead of de-friending, lol. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this, your cousin is a real twerp!

Post # 8
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325 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Your cousin sounds terrible! I have a cousin like this… she verbally attacked me and then her daddy got all don’t fuck with my princess and whatever. People are idiots –  especially if they have a mom/dad who thinks that they can do no wrong.

Post # 10
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312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mandb122:  I hate to say this but I think you’re better off cutting them out of your life.  Its sad that family has to be like that but when they are just pretend they don’t exist.  Even at family functions. 

I have an aunt and uncle (they are brother and sister) who at my high school graduation party decided to literally get into a drunken fist fight in the middle of my street.  Needless to say they weren’t invited to my brothers graduation party and they won’t be invited to my wedding.  I don’t talk to them anymore unless we are all invited to the same family function in which case I only talk to them if I absolutely have to.

My Fiance also has a cousin who starts drama and once almost got him to break up with me after spreading lies.  I doubt she’ll be invited either.

It’s sad when family has to start drama because in the end your family is supposed to be who you can really trust and support.  I say move on with your life, cut them out of your facebook life and pretend they don’t exist.  When they continue to talk bad about you and start up drama they’ll look bad because you’ve taken the high road by just ignoring the antics.

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