- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Well it’s been one interesting week!
If you want to read all about my saga, it’s all here http://boards/weddingbee.com/topic/my-own-diamond-vs-family-diamond-help-please
If you don’t want to read through all 3 pages, here’s what basically happened: Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were looking for rings. One day recently we were at his aunt’s house. Boyfriend or Best Friend was complaining to her about how much diamonds cost, so his aunt gave me her old ring in front of the entire family. It’s not a style nor shape I like, and I really wanted my own ring regardless. BF was happy he didn’t have to spend a lot of money on a ring because all of a sudden we had this great family heirloom to use. Aunt thought I was ungrateful. It has caused a huge problem between us. I think that pretty much summarizes it.
So here’s my update, warning, it’s long –
Last Friday Boyfriend or Best Friend (“J”) and I were driving up to a friend’s cabin for Labor Day weekend like we do every year. It was a 4 hour drive. His friend Kenny and J have been best friends since high school, so I know Kenny very well, and we and a bunch of friends have been going to his family’s cabin for years.
We did not discuss the ring at all on the drive, but were discussing wedding plans. (We had just booked our venue that day). It was kind of strange because J was very giddy about wedding planning, where I was just kind of like “whatever”. You just have to know me – I don’t like being the center of attention…I swear sometimes J is the girl in our relationship! So we discussed possible bridal party and things like that. I swear I must have rolled my eyes 100 times.
Then J got a call from Kenny and he was acting like he didn’t want me to hear their conversation, like he was talking in code. J said Kenny is running behind us and that we’ll get to the cabin before him, so we should stop somewhere and get something to eat. I said let’s go through McDonald’s because I was getting hungry, but J wanted to stop at a sit down restaurant. I reluctantly agreed.
There is a town on the way to the cabin, a very touristy place. We’ve been through there a million times. So J says lets go to this one restaurant that’s right on the lake. It’s my favorite restaurant up there so I agreed.
J got a new SUV recently that he babies so much and always has to park at the furthest spot so no one even breathes near it, so it didn’t surprise me that he parked on the other side of this bridge that we needed to cross to get to the restaurant. We start walking and he was a little behind me.
Suddenly he stoped at the middle part of the bridge. I was super hungry at this point so I was a little annoyed at his dawdling, so I said something like “is there a problem?” He smiled and said “Did you know that my dad proposed to my mom on this bridge?” I said “Yes, you tell me that story every time we come here. Come on – I’m hungry!”
He then got down on one knee and pulled out a small box! I started freaking out inside because all I could picture is his aunt’s ring in the box! All I remember saying was OMG, OMG. J couldn’t get a word out and he was nearly crying. I don’t remember the last time I’ve seen him like that, if ever! Everything was kind of a blur after that. I’m not sure why, but I went and sat on the bridge next to him and he said something like I have to stand up in order for him to do this properly. At this point there were people around figuring out what was going on so it felt like the world was staring at us. I don’t remember exactly what he said; all I heard at the end was “so what do you say?”
I felt nauseated at he opened the box. But inside the box was not his aunt’s ring – instead there was the most perfect princess solitaire ring! I screamed and I guess I was jumping up and down clapping (at least that’s what he told me I did) and said “put it on me!”.
He said he didn’t get a chance to get the setting I wanted because after everything that happened the last couple of weeks, he needed to just get me the ring, so he had the diamond put in a temporary setting. It was too big for my finger so it almost flew off right there on the bridge as I practically attacked him! He said we could pick out the setting once we got back home.
After we ate at the restaurant we went to our friend’s cabin. As soon as we walked in there our friends yelled “congratulations!” They had balloons and streamers up; beer, pizza, buffalo wings, and just a ton of food. My Boyfriend or Best Friend Fiance (!) planned this impromptu party with Kenny within a few days. There were also some friends there that I hadn’t seen in a while which was so sweet. I was in serious shock and everything felt like it was moving in slow motion.
And can you believe it – I don’t have a picture of the diamond! I didn’t even think of taking one! All I know is that he ordered it online, and it’s a 1.62 carat I, VS2 princess cut. Totally exceeded my expectations! We cried and apologized for being stubborn and I insisted on paying for the setting as I know he probably spent a lot more than he felt comfortable. He finally agreed to let me buy the setting.
I dragged him to the jeweler this afternoon and ordered my setting! I like matching sets so I am getting a Martin Flyer Flyer Fit channel set setting with matching wedding band. Now I have to wait 6 to 10 weeks for it!
Oh – we did talk to his aunt late last night and told her the news. While I don’t think she was happy that I’m not going to use her ring, she congratulated us. Fiance (gosh I am not used to that!) said she’ll get over it. He admitted how much of a dumbass he was about this whole ring thing, and that the most important thing to him was that we finally get married. I said I would wear her ring on the wedding as my something borrowed.
Sorry this is so long. I still cannot believe this is happening! I think the talk with my brother made J see the light!
Thanks again for everyone’s support! You bees are the best!