Post # 1
Bees…. I need as many positive vibes and prayers as I can get right now… My father, who previously decided not to attend our wedding, has changed his mind about that….. After the drama that occurred with him, his wife and me- we moved our wedding date up 3/31 to keep it small and involve only our children, mothers and my brother….
I know I should be happy bees, but I honestly don’t know how to feel. I don’t want any drama at my small ceremony this weekend and I am worried that his change of decision will cause just that.
He has asked me to give in the ceremony information…. UGGGGG! I know that not sending it will create even MORE of a rift between us…
HELP! (and thanks for reading about my drama) Any suggestions are welcome.
Post # 3
@Keisha In Love: I have a bit of daddy-drama too and honestly, I’ve learned you just need to do what’s best for you and your family. If you think his being there would be a problem, tell him, “thanks, but no thanks.” It’s hard, but he can’t keep doing this to you, nor is it fair.
Post # 4
I would say limit your contact on the big day, tell him thank you for coming and move down the line.
Also as for sending the ceremony info, procrastinate a little and oops to late for changes. It will be ok and you WILL have a lovely wedding! The important thing is your marring a man you love, nothing changes that!
Post # 5
@Keisha In Love: Hi dear!
I had to go read your previous posts. So your dad does not approve of weddings for 2nd marriages and your stepmother is not a kind woman. Do you think they will cause drama?
At this point, do YOU want him there? Do your other guests want him there? Either way, if you invite him or not, it will be on your mind.
You need to seriously talk to him and tell him why you are eloping and how he played a role. Second, he needs to know his wife better be on her best behavior if he comes.
Post # 6
I’d just tell him point blank that arrangements have been made and you are unable to accomadate him at this late a date. He told you he wasn’t coming, so you’ve filled his spot with someone who wanted to. If he doesn’t like that and it’s not fair, then you have free reign to say, “Now you know how I feel”.
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
His wife’s not coming, is she?
I know from your last prior posts that this has been tough. Sounds like he might be trying to extend the olive branch with this- do you think your relationship with him will improve if he attends your wedding? Would it be a healing, or would it cause more hurt?