(Closed) UPDATE: FBIL's Christmas proposal

posted 5 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

does fbil remember when his brothers birthday is… i would speak up….

Post # 4
530 posts
Busy bee

Well that sounds like a bit of a shit show :-/.  Did they at least contribute to the kosher food and table/chair rentals?

Post # 5
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@asianyoushi:  He sure does! In her last post she said her Future Brother-In-Law wanted the wedding on that day so that they could celebrate both together. 


OP I’ve been waiting for this and for some reason I thought it would all kind of work out but I guess not.  Seriously he only brought champagne for 2 people??? And I can’t believe they were so disrespectful to you and your family in YOUR home.   I really don’t like this guy.  I’m sorry you have to push your honeymoon back but I’m sure you will still have lots of fun.  I really hope this is the last of selfish stunts but I’m not holding my breath.  Good luck with him!!


Post # 6
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - Historic cinema

You are truly an amazingly gracious hostess and lady!

Future Brother-In-Law is a complete moron.

Post # 7
7649 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@flapperphilosopher:  Well, I was hoping for a more positive update about your situation but, given your FBIL’s IQ of a teaspoon, this sounds about accurate. Hopefully you being a Bridesmaid or Best Man will work out and everything goes a bit more smoothly going forward.

Post # 9
1649 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@flapperphilosopher:  I’ve been waiting for an update to your Original Post. I can’t say I’m surprised by how it went. Your Future Brother-In-Law sounds like he has absolutely no consideration for anyone. Who only brings enough Champagne for two people?! I know it can be expensive, but come on!

And the other table starting to talk half-way through your family’s toast to your Grandma?! That’s pretty much the definition of rude. I can handle a lot, but I would have flipped a s#?! over that – obviously you and your family are much better people than I am.

Honestly, at this point, I wouldn’t change my Honeymoon plans. I would go with my original plan because it sounds like Future Brother-In-Law is just doing it for attention or to be competitive or something stupid. I can be really vindictive though, so it’s probably better that you aren’t me. Lol!

If your Fiance is really upset about everything, then maybe he should speak with his brother about things – not to get him to change the plans (which I think are BS since he knew what your plans were ahead of time), but to let him know that his inability to plan put a lot of stress on you both. If he doesn’t want to bring that up, then I think he should at least let him know that your family and the two of you were really hurt by the lack of respect shown during the toast to Grandma. They may be perfectly nice people and they may not have known her, but that was completely out of line.

Post # 10
3688 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The whole lot of them sound like assholes. You’re a better person than me – I would have put him in his place long ago.

Post # 11
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

You are awesome and your Future Brother-In-Law sounds like a rude little butthead!

Post # 12
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@flapperphilosopher:  Your Future Brother-In-Law sounds completely out of touch with reality. I’m sorry your first experience hosting was so dramatic but it sounds like you handled it very graciously. 

Post # 13
2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Wow, you handled that pretty well. Your Future Brother-In-Law sounds ridiculous!

Post # 14
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Sounds like you are an amazing and gracious hostess, and did your grandmother proud! I hope the extra guests and Future Brother-In-Law at least THANKED you for all of your efforts? 

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