Post # 1
I’m the one who posted last week about the obnoxious t-shirt and social media post. The super sad girl who is tired of waiting on a proposal so decided to try and make jokes about it, which didn’t make things any better.
First of all, I deleted the post (I had already told everyone that) and also threw out the stupid t-shirt this weekend. Never wearing anything like that again!
Secondly, I told my boyfriend I needed some space for a while. My best friend and I moved into a cute rental home over the weekend. We took over the lease of my godfather who is going through a rough time. I think it’s a blessing in disguise for all of us. While my bestie sat eating sushi and watching Netflix yesterday, I told her it was the most relaxed I had felt in months. Not having to answer to anyone but myself.
My boyfriend is pretty devastated and is missing me pretty badly, but has agreed to do whatever I need to make our relationship work. I know it’s only been a few days, but he is stepping it up already. I’m just not ready to give in so quickly. I told him I don’t feel comfortable moving forward until he is undoubtedly ready to commit. I am not trying to hear 80 more excuses. I’m over that.
I want to thank everyone who has offered me advice or even just supported me from afar. I don’t know that I would’ve had the strength to stand up for myself without the support from this thread.
I’ll keep you guys posted on my journey and again, thank you so much.
Post # 2
I am so proud of you for taking control of your own happiness, bee. I truly wish you the best moving forward 🙂
Post # 3
proud of you, wish more waiting women would take action.
Do not move back in with him *unless and until* he actually proposes and sets a date. He will try to get you back with more promises for the future. You’ve given him enough chances, don’t fall for it again. Keep us posted.
Post # 4
I’m so happy to hear this, bee! Do what you need to for you
Post # 5
This is a really good update bee, good on you for taking charge of your own life!
I know some of the posts on the previous thread sounded harsh, but I think all the bees were just trying to shake you and make you really see your situation so you knew your worth!
Good luck with the new place.
Post # 7
Bravo!! This is a great update! Good for you for taking control of your life. I bet it feels pretty liberating! Seems like he’s getting the message pretty quickly too lol maybe this is the kick in the pants he needs. Enjoy this time with your friend!
Post # 8
You should be so proud of yourself for finding the strength to do something so difficult! Regardless of the outcome, this was a positive step in the right direction towards your happiness! Enjoy it and keep your sights set on what’s really important to you.
Post # 9
I am so proud of you, bee! Although it would have been nicer for your SO to have acted proactively rather than reactively, I am especially happy to read that he is acting at all. Take all the time you need in order to do what is best by you. Thinking of you and wishing you all the best no matter the outcome.
Post # 10
Nice move!!! Also very proud of you for taking control. He has everything he needs to step up or step out. Him being upset means ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. He knows what he has to do to keep this relationship in his life, anything less than him proposing asap is him knowingly deciding this relationship doesn’t mean much to him. I am sure he knows that he could propose to you tomorrow with a tin can lid and you would say yes, so it will be pretty telling if he still drags his feet despite claiming how upset he is.
So don’t let his crocodile tears get to you bee, i would even keep contact with him limited at this point. Congrats at taking control of your life bee, I am sure that feels good.
Post # 11
yeah, my feeling is though, even if he goes ring shopping today and proposes tomorrow…it kind of sucks that he left the OP twisting in the wind for the last year and waits until his
life is negatively impacted before he makes the commitment. I am sure he is devastated that the OP has asked for space but what about all the months
that OP was sad and anxious?
Post # 12
Hopefully this cute home has some cute neighbors and you can be with someone more deserving, who won’t waste your time. Good luck!
Post # 13
Good on you for doing what is best for you, and epsecially for not getting sucked into threats and fake-outs (like saying you’re going to leave unless he proposes and just using it as a way to make him do what you want). It sounds like you are genuinely taking it seriously and doing what is best for you. That’s awesome!
Post # 14
Yay! This is a great update! I am glad that you are taking charge of your life. Don’t move back unless he takes action (not just words/promises).
Post # 15
Oh I agree with you 100%, probably best to cut him loose completely. But sounds like the OP is still trying to give him an opportunity to step up?