Post # 1
This is my original post: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/guest-created-wedding-drama/
I for sure thought this was over. The amount of drama is nothing I’ve seen before. I have heard from my cousin in Manila that my distant relative (on my mom’s side) actually has an interview with the U.S. Embassy for visitor’s visa. Now I’m worried that they actually used my wedding as an excuse to get here. I’m starting to sound extremely petty and I hate this much attention.
I am a pretty confident person, and I’ve been put in extremely awkward situation to get where I am at. This is the first time I’m actually baffled at how to respond. Obviously they can fake my invitation letter, but what can I do on my end? I’m sure they’ll just use the visa to travel here in the U.S., but should I just let that go? In all of this, I feel like I’m the one that’s feeling embarassed.
What would you do bees?
Post # 2
This is the same cousin who asked you to leave her wedding because “your kind wasn’t welcome”? I mean they clearly aren’t invited to your wedding, right? And they know that. Right? As long as they are aware they aren’t welcome, there’s really nothing you can do about whatever lies they tell to get a visa.
Post # 3
So did you invite them or not?
If you didn’t invite them, just do nothing. Tell your mom they aren’t welcome and don’t send them an invite or a letter of suppport. Talk to your mom and make sure she’s on the same page and isn’t giving them a different message.
If they do use a fake copy of your wedding invite to get a tourist visa, I would just stay the hell away from teh whole situation. Don’t touch it with a 10 foot pole. If someone from USCIS calls you to verify the letter tell them that you did not invite them to the wedding and that they are using your name fraudulently.
If they do come to the USA on a travel visa for some other reason – not your problem. California is a big state, there is space for them to go wine tasting in Napa without you havin to worry about it.
Post # 4
They would probably need the addressed envelope with the mailed stamp on it to prove that invite was really for them. So if you don’t send them an invite (don’t!!) I doubt the embassy will accept some random invite they could have gotten from any family member.
Post # 5
Yeah, but I’m in Napa. :). And I have enough of my own wacky relatives to deal with.
Don’t worry, I’m joking, I’ll just stay home that week.
Post # 6
If they went ahead and forged your signature on the letter, immigration/the embassy deserves to hear about it… That is illegal!
Post # 7
No invites for them and you guys are right. There’s nothing to do about it.
Of course if they lie to get in the US, that’s obviously not my problem nor should it be my concern. It bothers me, and I feel slightly violated by it, but that’s just because I don’t want my name be used for something I actually didn’t authorize it to. It seems like a future legal concern.
Post # 8
I would contact the embassy and tell them the situation. I would be worried too — it might seem like a lot of trouble, but you also don’t want to get dragged into anything.
Post # 9
I’m not virtuous or anything, I’m sure I’m petty for not wanting them to use my wedding as an excuse to come here. What’s the harm anyway if I do right?
I think this is the dilemma I have now–should I just cover for them to get to the US or should I not? My logical side says “no harm if they visit so might as well shut up about it”… but the bitchy, vengeful part of me says, “No effin way.”
Post # 10
I would contact the embassy if you really think they are engaging in visa fraud. You could get in a lot of trouble if you were to get caught up in this…
Post # 11
I haven’t received a call back from our attorney but is it silly to worry about this in a legal standpoint? It feels both silly and scary at the same time, which is bizarre. Like I worry about it, then for a second I calm down and think it’s silly.
Post # 12
do you think one of your relatives might have mailed her invite to them?
Post # 13
Also, what if they show up to your wedding? Will you be ok with that? Based on the fact that they’re willing to commit fraud, I wouldn’t hold it passed them.
Post # 14
With the Patriot Act and the US being overly cautious about people entering the country for non valid reasons I would not want my name tied to this. It could be much bigger of an issue than simple family drama if any of them commits and illegal activity at any time and you could be implicated.
Post # 15
I went through something very similar for my wedding, I called the embassy but only because I knew they were planning on staying (even had an under the table job lined up).
It’s completely up to you in how you want to approach this, but if you have a bad feeling about it and you KNOW they are not being truthful and using your name as an excuse, please do not take this lightly. Contacting the embassy is not hard and doesn’t hurt, they’ll answer all your questions and let you know what your options are. Always always always cover yourself.