(Closed) UPDATE: "Guest-created Wedding Drama" — somehow got worse?

posted 5 years ago in Guests
Post # 2
2847 posts
Sugar bee

This is the same cousin who asked you to leave her wedding because “your kind wasn’t welcome”? I mean they clearly aren’t invited to your wedding, right? And they know that. Right? As long as they are aware they aren’t welcome, there’s really nothing you can do about whatever lies they tell to get a visa.

Post # 3
5866 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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forgotusername:  So did you invite them or not?

If you didn’t invite them, just do nothing.  Tell your mom they aren’t welcome and don’t send them an invite or a letter of suppport.  Talk to your mom and make sure she’s on the same page and isn’t giving them a different message.

If they do use a fake copy of your wedding invite to get a tourist visa, I would just stay the hell away from teh whole situation.  Don’t touch it with a 10 foot pole.  If someone from USCIS calls you to verify the letter tell them that you did not invite them to the wedding and that they are using your name fraudulently.

If they do come to the USA on a travel visa for some other reason – not your problem.  California is a big state, there is space for them to go wine tasting in Napa without you havin to worry about it.

Post # 4
571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

They would probably need the addressed envelope with the mailed stamp on it to prove that invite was really for them.  So if you don’t send them an invite (don’t!!) I doubt the embassy will accept some random invite they could have gotten from any family member.

Post # 5
1162 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

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cbgg:  Yeah, but I’m in Napa.  :). And I have enough of my own wacky relatives to deal with.

Don’t worry, I’m joking, I’ll just stay home that week. 

Post # 6
9874 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

If they went ahead and forged your signature on the letter, immigration/the embassy deserves to hear about it… That is illegal!

Post # 8
470 posts
Helper bee

I would contact the embassy and tell them the situation. I would be worried too — it might seem like a lot of trouble, but you also don’t want to get dragged into anything.

Post # 10
3606 posts
Sugar bee

I would contact the embassy if you really think they are engaging in visa fraud. You could get in a lot of trouble if you were to get caught up in this…

Post # 12
4689 posts
Honey bee

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forgotusername:  do you think one of your relatives might have mailed her invite to them?

Post # 13
470 posts
Helper bee

Also, what if they show up to your wedding? Will you be ok with that? Based on the fact that they’re willing to commit fraud, I wouldn’t hold it passed them.

Post # 14
319 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

With the Patriot Act and the US being overly cautious about people entering the country for non valid reasons I would not want my name tied to this. It could be much bigger of an issue than simple family drama if any of them commits and illegal activity at any time and you could be implicated. 

Post # 15
7 posts

I went through something very similar for my wedding, I called the embassy but only because I knew they were planning on staying (even had an under the table job lined up). 

It’s completely up to you in how you want to approach this, but if you have a bad feeling about it and you KNOW they are not being truthful and using your name as an excuse, please do not take this lightly. Contacting the embassy is not hard and doesn’t hurt, they’ll answer all your questions and let you know what your options are. Always always always cover yourself. 

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