(Closed) UPDATE: How do I tell my mom I don't want to wear her dress

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

No comparison, you in the Blue is AMAZINGBALLS!  I am glad your mom was so easy to win over with seeing you in the dresses.  I bet that takes a lot of pressure off.

Post # 4
2270 posts
Buzzing bee

I like your mom’s dress. But having a different dress is best. What does she plan to do with her dress now?

Post # 5
46371 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think your Mom’s dress would be really cute shortened for a rehearsal dress. Do either of you sew? I would cut the bodice off at the natural waist and make a gathered skirt from the plain skirt material- not including any of the lace that was on the dropped waist.

I would also remove some of the fabric from the flutter sleeves so you just had a sleeveless dress.

I think you would have enough leftover material to make a wrap to match the dress.

I don’t think it would be that hard to do.

Post # 9
872 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Your mother’s dress is beautiful, but the dress you picked out was meant for you!

Post # 10
1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I just posted in your other thread about staining! I am so happy your mom understands your wishes for a new dress. I think it is such a nice idea to pass on the dress, but not really too practical nowadays.

Post # 11
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

Your mom’s dress is beautiful but it’s your “mom’s dress” and I think you should be able to have your own dress… Did your grandmother insist on your mom to wear her dress? Did you ask her that question? Hee Hee

Post # 12
2589 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Thats awesome. You look great in both dresses – but yeah. No comparison.


Maybe get a nice portrait of you taken in your moms dress and surprise her with it? The stain won’t show, and I bet she’d be thrilled and honored.

Post # 13
5093 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

Your mom’s dress is very pretty, but your dress suits you much better.  You look gorgeous in it!


I think you might be surprised by how affordable it can be to get your mom’s altered and shortened, though.  I had my mom’s cut off at the knee, removed the sleeves, and had the bodice altered so it would fit me (I’m an F cup.  My mom is a B.  It caused issues), and everything together only cost $85.  I honestly might have spent about the same on a rehearsal dress anyway, so getting it altered was perfect.

Post # 14
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

YOUR dress is so much better- very glad to hear Mom agrees!

Could you do something with her headpiece- maybe incorporate it into your bouquet, somehow? I wore my Mom’s wedding garter and my grandmother’s bracelet, and it was really nice to have that history on our wedding day.

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