(Closed) Update: I cut contact with my abusive mother

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@caritas:  I don’t have experience with this kind of thing, but I want you to know that I think you are SO strong for doing this. I’m glad you feel better, and I wish you and your family all the best now that you are free from that toxic relationship. 

Post # 4
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@caritas:  I dont have any expereince in this, but I think you are brave for mostly cutting her out of your life (for now). But one thing that occurs to me, it sounds like she was almost as much a victim to your father as you were. I know there are no excuses for one parent ever allowing another parent to hurt a child. But I’m hoping you can see her experiece with some compassion for how broken she must have felt at the time. And I only say this because, unlike many abusive parents I’ve heard about, she does sound like she has changed and grown. I hope you are able to get some therapy to heal the wounds that having a baby have opened up and eventually are able to forgive you Mom and have her back in your life; it seems like the person she is today would be a good for your daughter. But I dont know all the ins and outs, just what you’ve written, so keep doing what is best for your family and good luck

Post # 5
6361 posts
Bee Keeper

Glad to hear it went so well and you’re feeling so free!

Post # 6
918 posts
Busy bee

@caritas:  I’m glad your mother took it so well. I wish you all the best with raising your daughter, and hope that your mum doesn’t go bat shit mental like mine does all the time. 🙂


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