(Closed) Update: I feel guilty that I don't want to support my boyfriend

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

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Ruthiefreefalling:  I don’t think you need to do too much differently right now. You can still date with the goal of marriage even though you don’t plan on staying in the area long term. There’s still experience to be gained from looking, and you never know, you may find a guy in CA who also has goals or who fortuitously later has plans to move to the East coast. You might even end up loving CA and staying; who knows. Plus, there are lots of jobs that allow telecommuting, so a relocation is not necessarily an end all, be all.

If you find a partner, great; if not, maybe it will happen in the future. Good luck!

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I would wait till you get the raise (and title, I hope) and then start applying in dc and pittsburgh for gov jobs. I totally relate to moving across the country Nd then aching to be driving distance from family. California is so great, perfect weather, great food and sunshine all the time, but it’s not home. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

I would not let the fact that you plan to move closer to your family in the future change you looking for a partner.  I moved to my current location from my hometown about 3 or 4 years ago, and although I was not looking, I met my fiancée.  He has known since day 1 that I do not intend to stay here long term, and he’s on board with that.  The future will work itself out!  Don’t worry about that – just enjoy your time there.

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