- 9 years ago
So I spoke with my mother this evening. I hadn’t really talked to her since everything went down. I had texted her about a few unrelated things to test the waters, and she was responding as normal. Well, you see, she didn’t know about it until my dad told her today.
I had texted her yesterday when it was all happening, and she never responded, so I hadn’t called her yet. I found from her today it’s because she was asleep, and my dad took her phone and read the text, so she never even knew about it. My dad told her what happened, and something that’s never happened before actually happened: my mother stood up to my father.
My mother is no shrinking violet, but she keeps a peaceful home (with a volatile father) by simply not getting involved. She and my sister both. They are Switzerland. Not this time. My father was apparently “offended” when she told him she in no approved or would tolerate how he treated me. I obviously can’t quote her exactly but this is the gist of what she told me this evening:
“I think you went through a period where you felt very unloved, and alienated, and neglected (yup–all true), and I don’t ever want that to happen again. You are my daughter, and I love you. You are your own person and your choices are your own. I may not always agree with everything, but in the end your happiness matters to me over everything else.”
She told my dad that he was alienating me with his words, and in doing so was alienating my younger sister as well. And some point my sister walked in the room and chimed in with a “Yeah, dad…you can’t act like that.” My mom told him he had a holier-than-thou attitude and he needed to fix it fast, because I’m his daughter and he has no right to shred apart my convictions because he feels strongly about something. She told me he wasn’t even home cause he knew she was mad at him, haha.
So there you have it bees. Major, major props to my mother tonight. 😀