- Mrs. Panda
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I’m sorry for your loss, big hugs
I’m sorry for your loss, big hugs
I’m so so sorry sweetie. I hate that you are joining this awful club. Sending tons of prayers and strength your way. <3
I am so very sorry for your loss. I completely understand how you are feeling right now, I remember saying the exact same thing after my miscarriage that I didn’t want to try ever again because I couldn’t handle the pain of losing another baby. Other people didn’t understand how i could say that so I just wanted to let you know that I do understand what you’re feeling and it is completely ok to feel that way right now. In my case, with time I did eventually get back to a place where I wanted to try again and I’m now 35 weeks with a baby girl. Whatever you decide to do, I hope that you will be able to get to a place where the pain is easier to cope with as soon as possible. It won’t happen overnight but I promise you it will get better. Also, there is absolutely nothing you did to cause this to happen. There is nothing you could have done to prevent it. I blamed myself for a lot of things I did/didn’t do as well but the truth is the majority of miscarriages are caused by a chromosomal abnormality that was present at the time of conception. Please don’t think that this is in any way your fault. **Hugs**
I am SO SO Sorry for your loss. There are no words. I want to give you a hug. Time heals all wounds and I hope that you can enjoy this season and if you decide to try again, I wish you massive sticky baby dust. <3
I am so hearbroken for you 🙁 I am sorry you had to go through this. (((hugs)))
So sorry for your loss! Sending out hugs and prayers!
Tomorrow is our early Christmas. That’s when we were gonna tell everyone. I don’t wanna go and try to put on a fake smile and receive gifts that I could honestly careless about. I’m going for my husband, to support him.. He needs to be around people, where i just wanna be left alone by EVERYONE.
Today has been really tough, the doctors want me taking it easy, but I can’t… Bc that’s when it’s all I think about… The way god failed my Darling Husband and I, the way MY body failed us. I needed to stay busy, so I shampooed carpets, cleaned the bathroom, wrapped presents… And I’m majorly regretting it. My body is in so much pain…
I’m juat so angry… It’s not fair… i can’t even go on Facebook without being reminded that other people are getting to have this amazing thing… That I lost… Why does the single 22 year old (my cousin)with 2 kids with 2 different dads get to be pregnant with her third, child and baby daddy… Who lives in a 2 bedroom trailer…oh and baby daddy has another kid already… So that’s 6 pepole I’m a 2 bedroom trailer…(I’m just bitter)
Sorry I needed to get it out. To vent.
@graygodess20: I’m so very sorry for your loss. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but it will get better.
One of my aunts had something like 5 MCs when they started TTC. One was particularly horrible because she was in her second trimester. It was so hard on them, and everyone was so heartbroken for them. However, they really wanted a family, so they kept trying. Today, their oldest son is fresh out of college, and their oldest daughter is in her first year. Their second daughter is in high school, and their “baby” son is starting junior high.
I know right now you feel broken and hopeless, but if you are still physically able to have children, then there is still hope. Be good to yourself. ((Hugs))
@graygodess20: Oh honey. 🙁 I’m so sorry. Please take care of yourself. Don’t overdo it! I understand you wanting to be alone for a while, but maybe seeing family would make it a little better? Get your mind off things? I KNOW that you’ll get your rainbow baby. You will be a wonderfuly mommy to a lucky child soon enough. Xoxox and always, feel free to vent away. <3
@graygodess20: Oh my God, im so sorry to be reading this update. I can’t believe I’m only seeing it now. I know this is no help right now but it will get better and you will have some good days, even now when it’s very raw. Surround yourself with the people that you love and people that understand or at least try to. I’m still recovering and I’ve made a point to see only somepeople and have said no to lots of invitations. You’re allowed to do what you want rigHt now. I was going to announce my pregnancy in Christmas cards so I totally get wanting to avoid that situation (I can’t even read the cards coming in our letterbox). I really hope you feel better soon, I’ll be thinking of you xxx
@phoebephoebo: I’ve broke down many times bc of the new family picture Christmas cards… I have NO appetite and when I so eat get very sick.
You know, you hear about MC and how common it really is, and never think it will actually happen to you… And then it doe, and for that time part of your world just crumbles. I hate to say it but have lost a lot of faith bc of this….
@graygodess20: Oh god, we don’t tend to do the picture Christmas cards! I just find the messages to be a bit contrived especially because some people know about the MC. I’d get your Darling Husband to hide the cards altogether. You really dont need the reminder. Try eating very small amounts of easy to swallow foods. Ihad a D&C so my experience was different. I can’t imagine what that day in the hospital was like.
People tell you that it’s common to help you feel better. So that you know people go on to habe healthy children. For me that wasn’t a help or a comfort. I just thought about all my friends who’ve never had to deal with this and how unfair it is. Also, after an MC you need time to mourn your baby. This baby, that was so wanted and loved. You can’t get over that in a few days and you should take whatevEr time you need.
@graygodess20: I know right now you are feeling defeated and lost…and thanks okay! It is okay to feel angry, sad, hurt, etc. But after awhile I hope these feelings pass. There is life after a MC and there is even more babies after a MC! My friend had 3 MCs before but now have two beautiful girls!
I hope your Christmas goes by quickly and I wish you a fast recovery.
@graygodess20: Im so so so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine the pain physically and mentally both you and your SO are going through. Take it one day at a time and if that means doing nothing but be in bed all day and shutting out the world, THEN YOU DO THAT! Do whatever it takes for you to heal! It’s good that you are getting everything out there, expressing yourself will help you heal. Bitter or not do what you need to do to feel better. ok? Get better and don’t lose faith in yourself and having a full healthy pregnancy. xoxo
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