- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I just want to thank everyone for their input:
My FH and I sat down and had a bit of a conversation this weekend, because he could tell I was upset on Friday night and.. I don’t hide it all that easily.
I told him that basicly, I’m feeling a lot of pressure. I try to save nearly 60% of my salary each month to go towards the wedding, our first condo/townhouse/apartment and saving knowing I have an older model car (2000).
Plus of course, I’m trying to build a savings for retirement and other things of the like.
I told him I really like our dates out, but things like a $200 day to NYC are really, really difficult for me to afford. I want to go (badly) but feel like its being irrresponsbile. I’d also have a lot of things I’d love to fix/replace (non-working cellphone, new pair of shoes before mine die, etc).
FH said he undertands, I shouldn’t feel that way though. He was encouraging me to go out and get a working cell phone (he’s not happy I’m without one) but I sorta weight going to NYC versus a cell phone.
Ultimately – we went out for dinner followed by The Muppet movie on Friday, then sent Saturday at home before heading out to board game and grab pizza with friends.. then spent Sunday board gaming again (annual event) for close to nothing.
It was much easier on the wallet and we had fun. He actually berated me for not taking the time and money to do things for myself.
Maybe it’s just me feeling the pressure.
He still hasn’t changed his spending habits, but how much he makes and what he spends are so sensitive to him.