(Closed) UPDATE: Just Found Out My Fiance of 6 Years Cheated, Other Girl is Pregnant.

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I just left this on your other post!

Good for you cali.

I am glad you came back to make an update. I have been checking. You are awesome; don’t every forget that.

I hope you stay on the bee, even if it is just to visit Smile

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

You are so amazing! I’m serious – your strength is encouraging to ME!

I am so, so very sorry that this happened. Sort of. I’m glad it happened, I’m glad you found out. I’m not glad he did this to you.

My ex dumped me via text message while he was at work and I was at home (we lived together, and had for three years), one day before our fifth anniversary, two weeks before my 30th birthday, and one month before I found out I had cancer. He messed with my head. He was cheating on me, but was denying it to the point that I thought I was crazy. He wanted me to move out immediately (I had nowhere to go, but managed to leave anyway), then he had a certified letter sent to HIS address for me, that was from a lawyer stating I had to be out of his house in x amount of days or he was “evicting” me. I was so confused, so hurt. I lost my dog, I lost my friends (he didn’t want them to know what he was doing, so he very quickly spread it around that I cheated on him, threatened him, etc so they would not want to be around me – some friends), and he deleted five years worth of photos and memories from his computer, which I used. It’s like he totally erased me, and I had no idea what was even happening or why. I finally logged into his Myspace account and found out the truth. When I showed up at his house (which was still listed as my house too on all documents) he called the cops on me and tried to have me arrested for simply asking him to tell me the truth. The cops laughed at him.

It destroyed me. I spent my 30th birthday alone. I laid in the floor and cried for weeks. I didn’t eat, dropped 15 pounds in three weeks. I don’t even remember being at work, though I was. There were many times I thought I would die (and actually, at the time, wanted to). He took her to his parents beach house in Florida. I really didn’t think I would survive it.

I still hate him – for taking my dog, being so cruel, and erasing my photos and trying to erase me. But now I’m married to the most wonderful man on earth, and I love him in a way that I now realize was not even close to how I felt about my ex. I’m glad we didn’t end up together, but the way it happened, royally sucked. But I decided that I’ll take it over what could have been – an unhappy lifetime with that cheating piece of crap. Sometimes we have to take our blessings where we find them, which isn’t where we expected.

I think you’re handling this remarkably well, and I’m so proud of you for it. He’s not worth the mess you can become, he’s not worth laying in the floor and crying over. I think you’re amazing. I really, really do. 🙂

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

soo good to hear you’ve got a plan and feel good about it!  i’m proud of you!!

Post # 6
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m glad that you are doing alright!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I also left you a comment on your other post. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

I just wanted to say that you are awesome and I think you are doing everything you need to in order to move on!  

You are very encouraging!

Laughing

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You are such an inspiration. Seriously. I’m so glad to hear that you’ve kept on truckin’.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow…you have pulled it together and are by all means on the road to putting your life back together.  Your strength is amazing.  Keep moving forward and have no regrets.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’m amazed at the strength you’re showing, and I’m so glad that for right now, you’re doing well. I really do wish you nothing but the best and I hope that you accomplish all your dreams–they sound amazing. Congratulations on taking back yourself and we hope that you do come back and visit and tell us how things are progressing with your life!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I’m so happy to read this.  I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers as you move on to bigger and better things!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

you are amazingly strong for doing so much already. Just take things one day at a time, you are in my thoughts!

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You are amazing. Rock on with your bad self! I love that you’re taking control. You’re my kind of woman =]

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow, I am super inspired by you. You have such strength and courage. I am proud of you and for you for handling this with such class and elegance and I too hope you stay on the bee. Great job and best wishes, you are truly amazing 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

You are amazing to have such strength and insight during such an unbelievably hard time.  Move to NYC!!

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