UPDATE: Mentally ill mother has had a relapse…

posted 8 months ago in Wellness
Post # 2
461 posts
Helper bee

I’m so sorry you have to deal with such a stressful situation. It sounds like you and your sister are handling things exceptionally well and with cool heads, which is both admirable and not something I think a lot of people in the same situation could manage. Your mom is lucky to have you guys looking out for her and hopefully you and your siblings can support each other while you support your mom <3

Post # 3
8122 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

JessieFay13 :  I am really sorry about your mother’s relapse and everything you are going through.

Here are some resources that might be useful for you. It may help to find a local support group or online support group.





Post # 4
2403 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m so sorry Bee, I find that the mental health system here can really suck at the best of times, and it is SO incredibly hard to get the help you need. Can you report the really rude and unhelpful triage nurse? It really sounds like she shouldn’t be working in that position! 

I hope the situation with your mum is rectified soon xx

Post # 5
9567 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I am sorry things have gotten worse bee, I remember your previous post. I hope things are sorted soon, sending internet hugs!

Post # 7
182 posts
Blushing bee


JessieFay13 :  I haven’t seen your posts before, but just wanted to say I’m sorry you are going through this.  I can’t imagine the challenges and stress, but it sounds like you have a process down.  Please make sure to take care of yourself!

Post # 8
3980 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I’m so sorry that you and your sister have to deal with all this..

It is super frustrating when, as someone who loves her mother and has her best interests at heart, family members do not have a say in treatment or how to help a person who is clearly unstable.

I know exactly what that is like as I have struggled countless times to get my sister hospitalized. It is extremely difficult to have push back from people who are supposed to be helping.

The good thing is that your mother is back in the hospital where she belongs right now and can hopefully get back on the right dose of meds to stabilize her. Good luck to you. And if you ever need someone to talk to or vent to, as I can completely understand your frustration and sadness, please feel free to PM me anytime…

Post # 10
1054 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

JessieFay13 :  Are you in the UK bee?

We have a family member with schizophrenia and she’s on her meds at the moment but has been sectioned 3 times when she’s gone off them. People assume it’s easy to get someone into a psych ward but that hasn’t been the case.

I grew up with a mum who was in and out of a psychiatric hospital until I was about 18. I’m lucky I didn’t have to care for her to the extent you do. I really feel for you but sounds like you and your sister are doing a great job of taking charge of her care. I hope she stabilises soon. Getting the right balance of meds is very tricky. Look after yourself. 

Post # 12
8122 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

JessieFay13 :  I’m sorry that things got worse. But at least she is in the best place she can possibly be for now. While we have a very good mental health awareness policy and great assistance for low level/more managable illnesses like depression we severely lack resources for more complex issues and long term care. There are very few funded inpatient beds across the board and it is one area that is ignored by governments, both state and federal. I mean look at what just happened in the CBD with the homeless people. Move them on rather than address the issues that have led to their homelessness.

I always remind people of issues like this at election times because so many people vote against their own interests. 

Remember to look after you. Carers often forget to do that. Ask for help because this isn’t just your job. 

Make sure they take you seriously over the medication adjustment debacle. It is your mothers right to have good medical care. Push to have her transferred to another doctor or clinic. Jump onto local mental health forums and get recommendations from both carers and sufferers on who is good in your mum’s local area. 

Remember that your mum is not herself right now and her blaming you is part of her illness. It hurts to hear it but know it isn’t her true self talking.

Make sure you lean on your new hubby. Good luck and look after yourself.

Post # 14
7 posts

I just want to say thank you! I’m glad you are able to be there for your mother. I truly believe if she were aware of the circumstances, she would be very grateful for your help.

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