(Closed) UPDATE – MOH gone Crazy!

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

At this point, I think your friend needs to talk to the bride.  Because if that’s the monetary expectation, she will have to step down, and I seriously doubt the bride wants her to do that.

Post # 4
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7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsGinkgo:  Her response should be, “I had no say what sort of shower it would be, so I don’t need to pay. If YOU want an expensive shower then YOU pay for it”.

She should just say no. The Maid/Matron of Honor can’t force her.

And wait, what, is she expected to fly in for the shower too? No reasonable bride would expect her BMs to fly in for pre-wedding events. (EDIT: OK, I see she doesn’t need to do that at least).

Post # 6
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8695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@loving_life:  this. Complaining about it to others isnt helping her situation. She needs to speak to the bride NOW.

Post # 7
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708 posts
Busy bee

I don’t think I could keep a straight face if someone told me it was “too bad” that I had decided not to voluntarily spend hundreds of dollars to be in some wedding.

Needless to say, I’d be forgoing the honor and responsibilities of being a bridesmaid at this point. Good grief.

Post # 8
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1547 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

She needs to talk to the bride.

What the heck

Post # 9
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2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MsGinkgo:  She isn’t even attending the shower??? She needs to tell the Maid/Matron of Honor again, firmly, NO.  What’s the Maid/Matron of Honor gonna do, kick her out of the wedding herself? And if the Maid/Matron of Honor doesn’t shut up, like I said, your friend really needs to talk to the bride.  I’m assuming since the bride picked her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, she wouldn’t want her to have to step down over something like this. 

Post # 10
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

The Maid/Matron of Honor is insane .  She should have communicated with every single Bridesmaid or Best Man asking what they were comfortable paying for shower .  It’s not like we’re talking  about 100$ bucks or something.  I think your friend should politely tell the bride that these costs are exceeding anything she expected or has paid before so she will need to stand down.  If she is truly a friend the bride will understand 

Post # 11
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1791 posts
Buzzing bee

this chick is LOCA!! 

Post # 13
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2625 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

She needs to call the bride ASAP!! That Maid/Matron of Honor is rude and I don’t think the bride would appreciate her behavior.

Post # 14
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8827 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MsGinkgo:  did she ever talk to the bride.

it is fully within her right to do that.

 

Post # 15
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7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Tha’s so unacceptable. So as a Bridesmaid or Best Man its your responsilbity to pony up oodles of cash if the Maid/Matron of Honor decides to throw and over the top party? Thank you Lord, I’m of an age where I don’t anticpate being asked to be in a bridal party. Cause I’d GO.THE.FUCK.OFF on that ass. 

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