(Closed) *Update* Mom kicking me out of my room so her bf can spend the night

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@theone99:  As the PP mentions in an update, she shares a room with her mom.

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@Brickette: 

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

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@theone99:  the OP mentioned in the other posts that she shares a room with her mum, and her mum’s boyfriend stays over most of the time, and when he stays over OP is kicked out of her own room and has to sleep on the living room floor.

Post # 34
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@Brickette:  see above, the bf does share the room with the mum when he sleeps over and OP is made to sleep on the living room floor

Post # 35
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Busy bee

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@echolove:  just read your update (post 26) and I’m so elated you’ve found somewhere to stay! My heart breaks for you when I read your story. It makes me wish I lived near you so I could hug you, give you my couch and let our puppies play together. Lol, nothing weird!

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Well if she’s a fully grown adult sleeping in her mum’s bedroom in a 1 bedroom house then it’s only fair her mother gets to have an adult relationship in her own home.

Get your act together OP and organise your own place, don’t rely on your fiancé

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
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@theone99:  Out of the 4 people living in the apartment, the OP was paying HALF the rent. Her father, the mother’s ex husband, was paying most or all of the other half and didn’t live in the apartment. I think it’s safe to assume he was doing so to put a roof over his children’s heads. So I’m gonna go ahead and say the OP CERTAINLY had rightful claim to a bedroom. Maybe even more so than the mother. 

 

But way to be super judgemental without reading any backstory. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
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@Jacqui90:  thank you.. That makes a little more sense ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@carolinabelle:  I did read the original post & all the drama that went with it. The fact is that the OP is a grown adult who willingly chose to share a bed with her mother. She stated that she had previously been in an abusive relationship for 8 years before her current fiance, so that makes her at least 24. 

The whole situation is fucked up & the OP is allowing it continue by relying on other peopls to sort her problems out for her. 

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee

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@echolove:  When Fiance moved out of his parents house (right before Thanksgiving this past year) we saw the apartment on a Monday, talked about it on Tuesday, signed the papers (and moved in!) on Friday.

What is taking so long? Tell your Fiance it’s really hard for you to wait right now when this can easily be solved. You have to be able to communicate with a man you’re going to marry. 

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
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@theone99:  I don’t think relying on your Fiance is a negative thing…she doesn’t have the money right now to pay for her own place & is in a terrible home situation. If say, you were right and the mom should be allowed to have the bf over whenever she wants to & kick the OP out of her own bed & make her sleep on the FLOOR in the living room because she’s a grown adult, then the OP should be allowed to do the same thing. For every time the mom’s bf stays over, the OP’s Fiance should be able to stay over, they get the bed, and the MOM gets the floor….since that isn’t happening, obviously it’s not a fair situation. Plus, the OP is paying HALF of the rent and the mom isn’t even fully paying the other half herself, she’s getting signifcant help from the dad who doesn’t live there. Mom doesn’t have right to much here.

If I was in a situation like that and couldn’t afford something else, I would definitely need to rely on my SO to get me out of that. And if my SO was in that situation, I would want her to rely on me. That’s what teamwork and a partnership is IMO.

OP I hope this studio works out for you!!

Post # 42
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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RANT – bugs the crap out of me when someone posts a very painful post on the Emotional Board and Bees don’t read all the comments… Or any back story butpost a reply anyways.  Posters such as this one who are indesperate circumstances seeking input / support from The Hive deserve better !!

This OP is freakin homeless…

No one gets to this point in there life by choice folks

But sh!t can & does happen

(been there myself during my horrid divorce)

So all those being so judgmental of the OP… Nice

But none of that does anything to help her in any way

 

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@echolove:  Thanks for the UPDATE (reply 26)

Hopefully all willwork out with this apt.

Otherwise I’d be looking around for to rent just a room in someone’s house… Not ideal… But usually you canavoid all the paperwork (&expense) that aformal lease requires

I know your pain &frustration… And what it is like to have no whereIto go & no money…

 

If it were not for friends I don’t know what would have happened to me

I couch surfed for quite some time when thins were at there worst

It was indeed a horribly embarrassing time in my life

Hang in there… Things will get better

As they say literally

That which doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

((( HUGS )))

#sent from my Ipad#

 

 

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC

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@theone99:  how has you advice helped right now? OP is in a messed up situation and your advice is get it together? Welll … how do you suggest she does that right now??

Post # 45
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

maybe it’s time to start looking for your own apartment in the mean time. You can always sublet.

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Sorry, I see you found a place. Glad to hear it ๐Ÿ™‚ I hope things get better for you soon. Sounds like a very hard situation. 

 

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