(Closed) *Update* Mom kicking me out of my room so her bf can spend the night

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 49
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Sugar Beekeeper
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@This Time Round:  agreed. when someone is desperate and alone, that’s not the time to deliver a smug lecture. 

 

Although I have been so lucky as to never be homeless, but for the grace of god… 

 

big hugs OP. 

ETA just saw your update. That’s a lot if what I was worried about, that you don’t feel entitled to a a litte help and support. Guess what, girl, you matter. And yes, life has handed you a lot of crap. But you will overcome it and you will find the happiness and peace you deserve. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@echolove:  I just read the better part of this whole thread. I am so sorry that you’ve had to deal with such f*cked up shit!! I’m sending my prayers to you that you’ll be able to move into a new place on Monday and begin a new chapter in your life.

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@echolove:  Glad you found a place for Monday! I hope it works out. In case it doesn’t I’d recommend contacting local churches and women’s shelters. Sometimes they can help you find rooms for rent, or there are programs where they’ll help you out with rent and you’ll gradually pay more until you’re paying full rent. Gives you a chance to get back on your feet. Not sure what’s around your local area but churches and shelters are a good place to start. Take care.

Post # 54
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Bumble bee
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@echolove:  oh im so glad everything is working out!

 

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@echolove:  

aw sweetie, im so sorry you went through all that! but im glad that you found someone who loves you and takes care of you. 🙂 Everything will get better

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@theone99:  I’m a mom of a grown woman (recently graduated from college) who lives at home.  I would never treat my daughter like that, ever.  I think it’s a shame you are laying such harsh words on OP.  Sounds like she has A LOT on her plate with school and everything else going on. 

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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@echolove:  I’ve now had a chance to read your post in full and I am so sorry you are going through this, no mother should treat their daughter this way, but can I say good on you for getting your life back after what happened with your ex! I am glad you have found someone new who treats you well and I hope that things only get better from here! Xo

Post # 58
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would like to apologize OP for some of the responses you got in this thread. I guess it’s easy to judge when you haven’t been there. I’ve actually been homeless and I can tell you that it isn’t your fault. Life just sucks sometimes no matter what choices we make. I will keep you in my thoughts (prayers) and I hope you keep us updated. I really hope everything goes through with this studio.

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Buzzing Beekeeper
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@Tinatiny1:  +1

big hugs OP

you do deserve help, you need a break

Post # 60
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

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@Tinatiny1:  agree.  The one thing I’ve learned in life, is you can be on top of the world one minute, and truly feel / experience the crushing blow of being UNDER it the next.

As you said,

Although I have been so lucky as to never be homeless, but for the grace of  God… go I.

Statistically they say we are all just a few pay cheques from the reality of being bankrupt / homeless…

AND it happens more often to women than men, and most often to either after a break up or divorce.

I learned the hardway… one shouldn’t as you say get “too smug” in our status in life…

Things can change pretty unexpectedly

Be it a job loss, severe family illness, accident, divorce… etc

Sh!t happens and can wipe you out both Financially and Emotionally

And when you lose it emotiionally (due to the stress) the way back onto the road to recovery (forget even thinking you’ll be zipping down the Freeway of Wealth, Health & Happiness) can be a long one for sure.

I am 10+ years out from my Seperation now… and there are still bumps, pot holes, and bridges out on my own road.

Thank GOD, I have Mr TTR now… cause he truly helps me navigate a route thru the mess, when I find myself facing another dead-end & detour… he keeps me going emotionally… when I am still at times waaay too tired to cope / care.

(I’ve come to the realization that I may never again be the high-energy go-getter preformer / person I was before 2000)

The OP hopefully will be able to move forward from the point she is at now… she deserves more out of life

Unfortunately… you can’t pick family… and that does seem to be what has messed her up more than anything… the toxic people around her (which inturn put her into situations that were dangerous, destructive and debilitating to her emotional state… molestation, relationship abuse, and family members who “use” her).

When you have a childhood that is bad, sadly you don’t actually know that… because it is ALL you know.  So you assume it is this way for others as well.  It is only as you age and mature, and see the world that you come to realize that the family you loved and depended on were disfunctional / or ill.

On the positive side…

The OP is a good person, kind hearted, hard working, young and determined.  These are all positives that can help her to turn things around

What I would advise her tho is to look into some counselling (Women Centres for Abused Women tend to offer great services, and as she suffered some major partner abuse in the past she could qualify for inexpensive / FREE help). 

Any form of abuse screw up your head.  And if you don’t work thru it, it just lies dormant until something sparks it up again… it really needs to be addressed so the OP can truly move forward and not look back (dwell in any such way on the past)

 

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