(Closed) Update: Mommy Dearest thread

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Holy shit I don’t know how you can stand her! I would flat out call her and say if she cannot be supportive and go to her daughters shower but can afford/choose to go to Vegas with girlfriends then she can just not go to the wedding and stop contacting me. She’s acting horrible to you and you deserve better.

Post # 5
2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@phillybride61513 I would go as far as to say she’s acting bat shit crazy. I just cannot imagine my mom doing this and if she did, I’d totally call her out on her bs and say FU don’t come to the wedding, let her explain to the relatives that she’s acting like a bitch to you, ignoring you, choosing to go to Vegas instead of your shower etc. She’ll look like a weed and you’ll look like a rose.

Would you ever go as far as to tell her to forget going to the wedding?

Post # 7
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

No words…just *Hugs*

Post # 8
9548 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m sorry your mom is being a poopy head. Definately sucks that she’s giving you the run around. This probably wouldn’t bother me as much just because I don’t really think showers are that big a deal for me. I don’t even know if I’m going to have one and I won’t really mind to much if people can’t come. But clearly, it is important to you and so I’m sorry she’s not more on board. Maybe she just doesn’t think the shower is a big deal and doesn’t realize that it’s important to you. Or maybe she’s just selfish. Either way I’m sorry! But I’m sure it will still be an awesome shower. Don’t dwell on the suckiness that she isn’t coming and focus on those that are coming and awesome it will be!

Post # 9
847 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@phillybride61513:  I meant to ask on the other thread – did you deliberately choose (an alternative spelling of) the same name for your thread as Christina Crawford’s memoir ‘Mommie Dearest’ about her abusive mother, Joan Crawford? If you did it’s fine because I love me some melodrama.

And yeah, your mum sounds annoying. Not evil, just flighty and self centred – which is a terrible combination in a parent. I’d be upset and I’m sorry you have to go through this because your mum should be one of the few people who thinks the sun shines out of your ass and bend her life to you (to a certain extent). Unless you’re one of those tacky brides and this is like, your third shower then your mum should definitely be there if she can. 

Short of chloroform and the trunk of your car, I don’t really think there’s any way to really get her to come to your shower of she doesn’t want to. Just tell her you’re hurt but understand that she doesn’t want to come and refuse to get into any drama. 

Maybe if there IS an event she’s looking forward to (eg- the expensive bachelorette party) tell her that you assumed she didn’t want to go and you replaced her with somebody else. That’s only if you’re feeling incredibly petty though. 

Then again..maybe your mum feels like she doesn’t need to spend hundreds of dollars to watch you open blenders and books about sex positions. The shower is supposed to be a fun thing and not something people are morally obliged to go to. The trip to vegas sounds like it would be a fun thing for your mum to do with her girlfriends and maybe she thought that you wouldn’t really mind? Showers aren’t that important and your mum sounds like the type you have to pick your battles with. So maybe just tell her how you feel and then leave it? 


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