(Closed) UPDATE: Most of you told me to cancel the wedding and elope, but…

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: 2 receptions (kinda). Will my idea work?
    Great idea! : (24 votes)
    80 %
    Good idea if you change/do this..... (please tell me) : (1 votes)
    3 %
    Not a good idea because..... : (5 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    3081 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Your place is seriously beautiful! And you can absolutely make it work the way that you have laid out – yes it might be more work and you might need more help than anticipated but it will turn out wonderfully.

    Definitely not weird, stupid, or crazy.

    Post # 5
    3866 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @pohget: the “bad idea” voted was (not gonna swear or promise this is why) probably because it’s not something they’d do or consider.  

    personnally?  It think it’s an awesome idea!  You get what you want all around!  And a sit-down dinner DOES NOT require dancing!!!!  I’ve seen lots of bees not having dancing at their weddings. 🙂

    have fun and YAY for finding what you want!!!! (or at least close to it?)

    Post # 8
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I would nix the second part of the reception personally. It doesn’t sound like something you actually want to do, and one thing my own wedding taught me is that your guests are coming to your wedding to see you get married – not for the free meal.

    If the tea party picnic is what you really want, just focus your energy (and finances) on making that amazing, and skip the dinner hour.

    Post # 10
    3220 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    why not push your ceremony later and have late afternoon wedding with a picnic early-dinner? save the money you’d spend on the 2nd reception– it sounds like you’re having it just because it seems like “what you should do” not because you actually want to do it.  I wouldn’t care if there was a dinner reception for a wedding, I wouldn’t expect you to entertain me all weekend or babysit me after your wedding!

    Post # 11
    706 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I think this site looks great and your plan is wonderful!  If you flew me out to Australia, I’d be the slave to take your food in and out and be the ceremony/reception slave 🙂  But honestly, I think you have a great plan; do what makes you happy in this venue and your wedding will be fantasic!

    Post # 13
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @pohget: Ultimately there’s probably a lot of nuance behind this that’s hard to express in just a post. I just feel like you’re where I was before our wedding, feeling a pressure to entertain people or somehow compensate them for their travel – like you owe them a meal because they came. I ended up doing a dinner reception, and we had to cut corners like crazy to afford it on our small budget, and it was mediocre, nothing special (the food I mean – the company was great!) and in retrospect I realized that they weren’t there for mass produced chicken and pork, they were there for the ceremony and getting to spend time with us was the reward – not the “traditional meal.”

    If I could have a “do over” I would probably plan the whole wedding differently. It just sounds to me like you’re making a huge and (in my opinion) unnecessary compromise on the wedding you and your Fiance want, because of some unspoken “expectation” that you’ve put on yourselves.

    Post # 15
    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    @pohget: I think people will understand that the party has to be moved inside if it rains – since they’ll know ahead of time that the reception is going to be an outdoor tea party, they’ll understand that a back up rain plan is just that (a back up that isn’t perfect, or it wouldn’t be the back up!)

    The other thing with consolidating into one reception is that you will have more money to put into it – so you can do incredible scones and dips, instead of just scones and dips.

    Post # 16
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    You should read Mrs. Earrings’s recaps for some ideas. She had tea outside, followed by dinner, and some dancing, and it didn’t look like she had a ton of guests, either. It wasn’t a raging dance party, but just some fun dancing on the grass. 


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